How Do You Deal With Missing Your SO?

[WhenWillILove]

It's been a month since I haven't physically been with him. I mean, I really miss him. We Skype almost daily but sometimes, Skyping makes me feel even sadder.

 

Lately, I've noticed feeling jealous of couples that hold hands and kiss...on the street, obviously.

 

I dream about him quite often. The dreams are usually centered around the idea that he's so close within my (physical) reach, then I wake up and.....I'm a continent away.

 

Then, at my new school, there's this guy that is somewhat similar in physical features to my boyfriend. He's very good looking and a few girls talk to him. One girl, in particular, really takes her time in talking to him, i.e. walking to class together, entering his dorm room, exchanging numbers, sitting close to him in class, etc. I mean, these are definitely signs that she's hitting on him big time. I could be wrong....

 

I really don't know why I get jealous so easily of others' affections for each other. My boyfriend showers me with attention, but now, that he's not here, I feel all alone but I don't imagine myself with another guy. I really want him. At times, I feel unattractive but mostly due to the fact that there are SO many pretty girls at this new school; literally, models walking around. At times, I feel like, well, if I see a good looking guy (i.e., Brad Pitt type), there's no way he'll like me because I'm not attractive for him.

 

I'm feeling so bummed, honestly. And yet, there's this one guy that keeps hitting on me quite often and he is very attractive.

 

My emotions are all over the place.

 

Any of you go through this?

[LaKings55]

Those fade as you get older. After college, I just found young couples making out on street corners to be inappropriate.

[In the Dark]

Maybe just knowing that you do have someone who is attentive in whatever way he can and does love you.

Being loving and loyal from a long distance is something worth loving about someone.

 

I'm not sure why you care if some other Brad Pitt guy is attracted to you or not when you have someone regardless of him being at a distance.

 

The long distance situation is just how it turned about for the time being.

Not like it's going to be forever.

 

Could be worse.....you could have some guy who can't be bother skyping with you or no one at all.

[WhenWillILove]

Those fade as you get older. After college, I just found young couples making out on street corners to be inappropriate.

 

I am post college.

[WhenWillILove]

Maybe just knowing that you do have someone who is attentive in whatever way he can and does love you.

Being loving and loyal from a long distance is something worth loving about someone.

 

I'm not sure why you care if some other Brad Pitt guy is attracted to you or not when you have someone regardless of him being at a distance.

 

The long distance situation is just how it turned about for the time being.

Not like it's going to be forever.

 

Could be worse.....you could have some guy who can't be bother skyping with you or no one at all.

 

I guess you are right.

[OptomisticGirl]

It's never something you learn to deal with, some days are just easier than others. I miss my fiance every second of every day and some days it doesn't bother me but some days when I'm doing something he and I should be doing together or he should be a part of, yes, those days are hard. A good cry gets me through them, as well as knowing we only have another year of LD before I never have to do this again.

 

I'm not jealous of other couples' PDA's but when I'm having a bad day (like the missing my fiance effects my mood) it does put me in a bad mood. I wonder if they realize how lucky they are to be able to just reach out and grasp their SO's hand when some of us don't have that luxury...

[Voguester]

I was exactly like this too when I just got back home after being with my SO. I would see people holding hands, kissing and being sweet towards each other and just feel so down, I would remember how my boyfriend and I would proudly hold hands and walk down the street, how we would go for walks in the park and he would randomly just stop and hug me. It has gotten easier, it has been about 4 months since we've been together in person and when I first got home...boy was that hard...it was all so fresh in my mind and my emotions were all over the place.

If you really want to be with him than you just have to be patient and having a date for when you will see him again will make it more bearable for sure. I'm actually going to live in work in my bf's city next year which is really exciting and it's pretty much what gets me through.

[steve200]

ow i feel for you. I have the same situation. And yes i also envy couples very much, sometimes i even have to look away because it literally is too hard to look at. I cant give you any real advice but just accept that you are not together, and enjoy the ways of communication you have. I also think it is good to talk about the future and have a clear goal and understanding with each other. for example: we must make an agreement that we meet in person within 3 months. That gives you something to look forward to.

[Fudgie]

I think I'm a bit different.

 

I've been in a few LDRs over several years, and my boyfriend now is back in my homestate while I'm out of state for college.

 

I find that it's difficult to actually physically be with the person for a bit and then separate but day-to-day, I do fine for the most part. I get a kick from couple's PDA for some reason, as long as it's not obnoxious. I like seeing couples hug, kiss, and hold hands. For some reason it makes me feel better. Even when I've been through BUs, I still liked it. For some reason, it always makes me feel happy. I think I subconsciously substitute myself and SO in.

 

This is a video that I've been re-watching for years. Always picks me up when I feel lonely.

 

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Ironically, ALL of my boyfriends have hated John Lennon. Go figure.

[Voguester]

How could you hate John Lennon?? That's obsurd.

[Fudgie]

I don't know.

 

My ex B was old enough that he actually GREW UP with the Beatles. He hated them with a passion. He was like "I couldn't wait for the day that they would just break up and go the hell away." He REALLY hated them the most. One time I remember playing a song by Lennon and he was like "WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS? DO YOU HATE ME?"

 

My boyfriend now is a musician and kind of a music snob and he's always saying how the Beatles and John Lennon's music just suck and isn't "good music" at all and everytime he hears it, he hears all of the mistakes and says he gets bored with it.

 

So fine, everytime I want to listen to the Beatles, I have to do it alone and through my iPod. Screw them, haha.

[VixiT]

thanx for the song. Made me flyy

[Seraphim]

It is hard for sure. I am a military wife so it is often I am without my husband. He is gone right now deployed overseas. We use Skype but I am not sure if it is a help or making me sadder. Maybe it is both. Where he is the internet is REALLY bad, so we often lose the call and he can not get back to me till the next day.

 

I think what is helpful is you have to have a life of your own and just be busy.