In The Cold Posted October 6, 2011 Share Posted October 6, 2011 I know! DON'T DO IT! right? I struggle with this one because we were in an LDR (4 hours away) and she became depressed at the time of breakup. original thread here & timeline: Late July - Plans were for me to move back, move-in, and get engaged asap Aug 10 - depression (/last face to face meeting)...though I feel depression may have been caused by LDR Aug 21 - BU Sept - 12 till present ...NC On Sept 12th, I asked if we could see each other at Thanksgiving (this weekend), she said "We'll see". Up until no contact she was always receptive to my txts (she initiated), calls (2), emails (2). So my question is: Wisdom on this forum would be to absolutely stick to NC no matter what. My problem being is that I will not be there again until x-mas, and then April after-wards. Since it was an LDR, I seem to think it will be a case of "out-of-sight, out-of-mind" which will make it easy for her to move on. I want her to be able to see me face to face (I have taken advice here on self improvement, lost 35lbs since BU), show her that I am confident, and create a positive last mental image of me (she did the BU over the phone, she couldn't travel at the time etc.). So what should I do? send her a txt on Sat. asking if she wants to grab a coffee? Link to comment
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