mem4625 Posted October 5, 2011 Share Posted October 5, 2011 Why won't my husband tell me how he feels about us? (married 30 years) I asked him how he thinks we are doing (relationship wise) and he answers, "I don't know, how do you think we are doing?" Two days later, laying in bed at night, I ask him, if he is content in our marriage and he says no and when I press him for why he doesn't try to do something to make it better he says stress from work, fatigue, then gets mad and says he feels like I'm blaming him for any problems we have. So I shut up and nothing more is said. Three days later, I ask him if he will please talk to me in the morning and tell me how he feels about me, he says yes, but hasn't talked to me yet. Last night in bed, I say, can I ask you one question, he says yes, I said, "so I take it that you don't really care what happens with us?". He says, " yes I care". Thats it! Nothing more! I don't get it. We don't fight, don't have any problems to speak of. Granted, he is stressed and tired from work but I don't demand anything, we talk very little, I don't hen peck him about anything. I have purposely withdrawn because it doesn't seem like he wants to be close. But I'm at the point where I need to know if this is how its going to be from here on out so I can re-evaluate my life and do something to compensate for my loneliness like a new hobby or something. Anyway, my question is why doesn't he talk? I realize men don't like to talk about things like this anyway but when your wife point blank asks you to please talk to me and tell me how you feel and you still won't........what does that mean? So outside of depression, stress, etc, WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN WON'T TALK? (I don't suspect someone else) Thanks for any help I can get. Link to comment
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