Adele Posted October 5, 2011 Share Posted October 5, 2011 For 6 months I feel that my boyfriend has been mistreating me and not even realizing it. He treats me really well in some ways, but in others I feel walked all over and taken advantage of. He has a double standard and thinks that whatever he does is ok because he can justify it in his mind even if it deeply hurts me. If I do the same thing, however, even on a much smaller scale, he becomes all wounded. If I try to tell him my feelings he either brushes it off and tries to joke about it or becomes angry with me. I'm not a crier, but he has made me cry more times than I can count because I feel that things are very unfair and he won't listen. I have tried to forget about it, but the last time this happened something snapped in me and I became furious. I had been depressed, but that last thing was too far. Since then I have been evil. I am so tired of feeling on the brink of tears. I decided to start treating him exactly as he treats me. And you know what? The roles are certainly reversed. He doesn't like it at all. I don't want to feel all evil and vengeful though. I think he is just oblivious and clueless and selfish about what he does because he has been spoiled. I know now that I have to stand up for myself more because no one will do it for me. My question is, should I go all out and tell him everything that has happened that has seriously hurt me? I want to point out every selfish and unfair thing he has done and make him know that I am NOT ok with it and that I will NOT be treated that way any more. I don't know if this is a stupid idea. I don't know if it will make me feel better or if I will regret it later. I just feel like I need to let these feelings out somewhere. What should I do? Do you think I will regret telling him off? He thinks everything is ok with us, and I need him to know that I'm not ok with that kind of treatment before I can move on with life. Link to comment
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