Its funny how things play out

[bdbmwer]

for the past 3 weeks ive been trying to get my ex back the right way and do things right. Welllll....even after everyone told me steer clear of her I didnt listen. I went to the club last night with a bunch of friends and standing in line this douchebag who id later learn is her new fling says "hey werent you the guy that was dating P****" well I went inside and who should I run into but her friend that I met through my ex. But instead of things being awkward we both went and danced and drank till the club closed, went back to her place and she told me everything. She told me this new guy was trying to talk to her when my relationship started going south and how hes this no good no schooling coke dealer and all my ex's friends hate him and that my ex even realized shes no good for her but still goes crazy for him.

 

if ive learned anything its to take note of signs. such as she dated 3 no lifes before me someone who actually has something going for him and life. but why would she change now!

 

This hurts so bad did I really just learn my ex left me for a coke dealer? one that talked * * * * on my fb while we dated at that? oh well sorry had to vent atleast it made moving on easier =)

leaving all her * * * * on her desk today in class and sitting faaaaaar away

[lostandhurt]

You will find that some people say they want one thing but are attracted to something totally different. Her choice is not a reflection on you, but a reflection of her poor choices. He will treat her like crap and she will complain to her friends and probably end up texting you one night to see if you are still interested because he cheated on her or is in jail or got her in enough trouble to get arrested along with him and needs your help.

 

Lesson learned so stay as far away as possible.

 

Lost

[bdbmwer]

excellently put. its my turn to put up the walls and I have a list of things shed have to fix if she ever did want me back.

[bdbmwer]

figured id continue here instead of making a new thread. She called me after class and we met up at a local food place. I sat down expecting a nice casual talk and she drops " i got kicked out of my house" on me apparently because her parents found out about this new guy and dont like the path shes taking in life but she wouldnt mention this new guy even when i asked "are you sure theres nothing in particular that made them do it?". So I replied with "uuuum so what do you want me to do?" because i dont want to just be her fallback when shes in tough times and she said " ok sorry you can leave i knew it was a bad idea to call you"

 

 

was i too harsh? or was it good that i stuck to my guns? i just dont want to be taken for granted and used.

[doiiiieeezie]

It's good that you are sticking to your guns, because in the end she will respect you more in the end. As well, what are your needs?

[Crazyaboutdogs]

You certainly did the right thing. She was looking for a place to crash. Let her crash at her low life boyfriend's place. Keep far away from her because you don't want to be anywhere near someone who is going down that bad road. If her parents don't even want her around now, that says a lot.

[bdbmwer]

thanks for the confirmation guys I really needed that. it hurt that our first contact involved her saying" i knew it was a bad idea to call you" instead of good things but as far as her parents they threatened to kick her out if she went to the beach with me and we went anyways and they didnt but her parents loved me so idk if they actually will but i think theyre just trying to give her a wake up call because she grew up with money.

[lostandhurt]

You need to worry more about your life and less about her. She has chosen her path so let her live it. She is a selfish little girl that probably never had to deal with the consequences of her actions.

 

Steer clear of this train wreck so you don't get used. Time to go meet a nice stable girl that isn't dystructive.

 

Lost