fromnywithlove Posted November 7, 2011 Author Share Posted November 7, 2011 Just as I was about to leave he told me he had to take a raincheck for tonight as his client pushed up the date he needed his website done. So he'll be working all night. He invited me over for tomorrow though, but I'm thinking of not saying a word to him all day. I hate the games but I don't want to be too available to him, especially now. Link to comment
mhowe Posted November 8, 2011 Share Posted November 8, 2011 Mystery is better. I'm sure his work thing is legit -- do not pursue at all. Let him instigate it all. And what ever you do, don't say "we need to talk". There are lots of questions right now and very few answers. But leave tonite --- no sleepover. Link to comment
Giggles81 Posted November 8, 2011 Share Posted November 8, 2011 I just want to say that Ive been a lurker on this website for a while and thanks to THOR AND HIS STORY, HE made me sign up and actually reply. LOL I think youre funny....but readying a few of your posts in this thread makes a lot of sense. I think your kinda cute too Ok carry on.... lol Link to comment
DerekJason Posted November 9, 2011 Share Posted November 9, 2011 I just want to say that Ive been a lurker on this website for a while and thanks to THOR AND HIS STORY, HE made me sign up and actually reply. LOL I think youre funny....but readying a few of your posts in this thread makes a lot of sense. I think your kinda cute too Ok carry on.... lol take a number and form a single file line hahaha. TH is the mack 'round these parts. Link to comment
fromnywithlove Posted November 14, 2011 Author Share Posted November 14, 2011 Weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllllll.......... Success! I had a WONDERFUL time on vacation and had an even better time hanging out with him. We laughed together almost the whole time except for one night when I got emotional remembering when I lost the baby. He was completely and utterly there for me. He got up and ran to my side, embraced me, and put my head on his chest. He stood with me and let me just cry it out for a long time. A couple of days after that, he invited me to stay with him, so I did. We spent two days together without having sex but then the day after that we started to get a little more touchy feely. I told him point blank, "I love you. I never stopped loving you." He looked shocked but then he smiled and said, "I love you too. I will always care about you." I left it at that and we hung out with other friends that night. Again, I came over his house. We slept in the same bed and cuddled but did not have sex. The next day, I woke up in the middle of the night and it was really hot in his room. So I went in the bathroom and put on a tank top. By then he was up, so I laid on his chest. He looked down at my breasts and I laughed. Then he did something I wasn't expecting: he softly grazed my breasts with his finger tips. I looked him in the eyes and I told him not to stop. He looked troubled, like he didn't want to hurt me, but he couldn't resist. I kissed his forehead and then his lips. His grip got tighter. He took off his shirt and I took off mine and we had a great hour of sex. It was amazing. I was completely satisfied and we never ever lost our physical connection. Afterwards he said he felt guilty because he did not want me to think this meant we were absolutely back together. I understand that and honestly, I'm ok with it. I really don't feel bad about the sex in any way at all. I expected to feel guilty but I feel wonderful about it. We spent that whole next day together. Not a single fight or argument to be had. We went out to eat that next evening and he said something that made me uncomfortable about one of his female friends and I brought it up very calmly. Then, two minutes later I realized, "hey, fromnywithlove, what he just said shouldn't bother you. Don't sweat it!" and so I didn't. I told him I'm going to let it go and it doesn't bother me. He was impressed. My therapy is really, really working. I feel great. We fell asleep cuddling that night. The next day was great too. He brought me shopping for my opinion on his clothes and we were hugging and kissing the whole time. We had an amazing time together. We visited his aunt together later that day and afterwards at night went out to dinner. He turned to me and said, "before you came I was not open to getting back together. But now you've really changed that. I am giving it serious thought. Let's keep this up. I'm not thinking of any serious relationships right now because I have to concentrate on bettering my work and myself, and you should too. But when you come back, if things keep going this way, we are looking towards giving it another shot. I really care about you." That night I got super happy drunk and we ended up sleeping together twice in one night. The next day he got up extra early to rent a car and drive me to the airport to have more time with me as opposed to putting me on the train really early in the morning. He went out of his way to take care of me on that and went out of his way to be accommodating, honest and open with me. We are most definitely headed in the right direction. Link to comment
deeplongbreath Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 Yay! So happy for you!! (wide grin) Link to comment
fromnywithlove Posted November 14, 2011 Author Share Posted November 14, 2011 Me too! Things went really well. And the sex was amazing. Link to comment
TomboyMS Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 Me too! Things went really well. And the sex was amazing. That's always good. I hope things continue to go well. Link to comment
fromnywithlove Posted November 14, 2011 Author Share Posted November 14, 2011 Me too. I'm moving back to his area for school/work in 6-7 months' time. I'll probably see him once more before the official move as I will have to secure housing/open a bank account, etc. Very excited! Link to comment
Angler Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 I am very happy for you! Just remember to go slow and let him work for it a little. We always appreciate things more when we've had to work for them, rather than having them handed to us. Best Wishes!!! Link to comment
fromnywithlove Posted November 14, 2011 Author Share Posted November 14, 2011 Yeah I'm totally happy. Tomorrow he's going back to the U.S. for a three week vacation but he won't be anywhere near me, otherwise I'd ask him to visit! It looks like it's pointing towards the "get back together" direction but I want to take it slow. But Jesus Christ, that sex was good. Animalistic, reckless... great. Link to comment
Angler Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 But Jesus Christ, that sex was good. Animalistic, reckless... great. We should all be so lucky Link to comment
fromnywithlove Posted November 14, 2011 Author Share Posted November 14, 2011 It was always amazing with him. Always. Hair pulling, slapping, grabbing. Manhandling. Love it. Link to comment
TomboyMS Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 It was always amazing with him. Always. Hair pulling, slapping, grabbing. Manhandling. Love it. Shhhhhhh. These heartbroken tricks on here will be trying to steal him. Link to comment
fromnywithlove Posted November 15, 2011 Author Share Posted November 15, 2011 Point taken!! Link to comment
fromnywithlove Posted November 15, 2011 Author Share Posted November 15, 2011 I also wanted to specify something else.. On page 9 I mentioned something about his ex telling me he would spite her and say he was masturbating thinking about other girls. There are always two sides to each story and the person I know him to be is not the person she knew him to be. Everyone who knows this girl knows that she is an emotional trainwreck and insanely jealous. In my anger I believed her, but now I am not so sure. I have never known him to gawk at another woman like she said nor to do anything purposely spiteful to me. He was clueless at times and broke other times, but I don't think he purposely wanted to hurt me. He said some dumb things, but I chalk it up now to inexperience. After having seen him a year later, he is most definitely a man changed for the better. And I love him. Link to comment
loulou37 Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 I know he will never come back to me. I just have to accept it. That's the worst part. This was from the "grizzled veterans" thread, i had to put it here, it just goes to show that we know nothing of what the future holds for us. good luck fromnywithlove...hope everythng works out for you loulou x Link to comment
fromnywithlove Posted November 26, 2011 Author Share Posted November 26, 2011 We still talk and get along. I've gone back to the U.S. and we're taking it day by day until I move back. Yesterday he said he can't wait to see me again. All roads point to reconciliation. It's fantastic. Link to comment
playstheblues Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 Lucky girl. SO happy for you fromnywithlove. Good luck - sounds like things are working out. Link to comment
Melting Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 Mine reached out, but it was only with bread crumbs Link to comment
AnnaN Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 I don't think that my ex will ever reach out. He was always calling me or texting me during the day, when we were not spending it together, for the last 4 years. He just disappeared in one moment... I wonder if he misses calling me the hours he used to call, during his break at work, when he was leaving from work, the goodmorning texts when he got up in the mornings. Link to comment
jeepman41 Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 How so? Does this include crying? I agree that someone stonecold faced is an obvious sign they dont care, but i imagine many dumpers will cry from the pain they put their ex-lovers through. I don't think crying is an emotion but merely a response to an emotion, be it anger, sadness or joy. Link to comment
RastaPasta Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 You have to believe that if someone wants the be in your life they will be. You have told him how you feel and it is now up to him to decide. Link to comment
deeplongbreath Posted December 3, 2011 Share Posted December 3, 2011 We still talk and get along. I've gone back to the U.S. and we're taking it day by day until I move back. Yesterday he said he can't wait to see me again. All roads point to reconciliation. It's fantastic. Congrats! Be happy Link to comment
fromnywithlove Posted February 12, 2012 Author Share Posted February 12, 2012 SO UPDATE. After he went back to the U.S. to visit his family for a month and we had been getting along really well during that time, he invited me back to Italy after he was due to return there and said "stay with me" over my spring break this April. We had made plans to go to Prague and Budapest. We were speaking almost every day. He was calling me beautiful and opening up to me better than he ever had done before. I spent $800 on a ticket to go out and see him this April and things were going GREAT... until one day I got home and he told me, "we really need to talk." I thought he might have met someone else so I was prepared for it. He dropped the bomb: "I don't want to lead you on. You shouldn't come visit me." Completely dropped the bomb out of nowhere. This is really distressing to me. The money isn't really the point. It's that I can't stand being hurt again. I want to say he played me like a fool, but he really didn't. When someone tells you, "I can see a future with you again" and "you're so beautiful. I miss you. I really do" and "come stay with me. We'll start over!" don't you want to believe it? Of course. Enough is enough. I'm not speaking to him and I don't intend to. Fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice and you're cut off. I don't need to deal with this and I certainly don't deserve crumbs. I'm tempted to use my ticket anyway and find another place to stay and not mention a word of it to him. After all, it's still a trip! Link to comment
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