TK99 Posted October 5, 2011 Share Posted October 5, 2011 So I am on here looking for some advice of what to do. This will be a long post because I am going to be explaining everything I can so you get the full story. To tell you a bit about myself so you get an idea... I am 20 years old, lived on my own since I was about 15, been through a lot in my life. I am working now full time now and renting a room in a house. I am not living poorly, but I have bills I have to pay every month like anyone else. Also to note, I've never and never will step foot in a strip club. As far as the girl, she is 18, grew up without parents, is living on her own with roommates and started stripping when she tuned 18 to make enough money to pay for everything. * A couple months ago in mid August I started talking to this girl. I met her online and we started texting and asking each other questions. I asked her what she is doing as far as work and she told me she was a stripper. She thought I would stop talking to her at that point but I am not that type of guy. We kept talking after that and eventually we ended up meeting at a iHop. She lives about 30 minutes away from me. Maybe around the end of August is when I met up with her. We started talking at the iHop and I learned a little more about her, she is amazingly beautiful and we got along great. She texted me that night telling me that she is sorry she isn't the ideal person to hang out with but she had a great time talking to me. I told her that she was amazing to talk to and that we should hang out again soon. The next night we hung out again and went to a Denny's this time. We talked again for an hour or two and then went home. A day later we hung out again an went to Denny's.. We started hanging out very often. We would only go to Denny's because it is the only place open at 3am or 4am which was when we would hang out because that's when she got off work. So a couple more weeks pass of us hanging out every night pretty much and we start connecting really well. We started talking about how I feel about her being a stripper, and I told her I don't have much of a problem with it. A few weeks into hanging out with her I decided I wanted to kiss her so that our relationship would progress. I kissed her on September 9th. After we hung out one night at Denny's we were walking to our cars and were having a good time and laughing and were about to leave but ended up staying by our cars and talking another 5 minutes or so and we ended up saying bye to each other and hugged 2 times and then we hugged a 3rd time and while we were hugging I said something like '3rd times a charm' because we were hugging so much and that made her laugh a little and as soon as we started to stop hugging we both were holding each other and looking at each other and we kissed. We just kissed on the lips the first time but then we started making out after that. Anyway, she was smiling, I was smiling and we said goodbye and we both went home. We kept on hanging out the next couple night and I found out that she had her car leased and she had to give it back so she wouldn't have a ride to work and back. I offered to take her home when she needed a ride so the next few weeks I started picking her up from work around 3 or 4am and we would stop by Denny's before I took her home. A couple times we went to other places, there is this café that is open late we would go to some times but mostly it was Denny's. On September 19th I asked out out officially. I was driving her home when she was telling me that she is getting kicked out of her house because her roommates were fighting so she needed to find a new place to live, she said that she might have to stay with one of her friends that she works with which is another stripper but she doesn't really want to do that. I offered her to stay at my place for a little while so that she could find a place but she refused. She said she was going to go stay at a friends place Scott and Jason which lives 2 hours away for a couple days so that she could relax and figure out where she is going to live. She told me she would need a ride to the train station to get there. So me being me, I offered to take her. It was about 6am at this time and just before I dropped her off at home so she could pack a few things, * I basically asked her where our relationship stands and she said I don't know, so I asked her if we are together and she looked at me and said I don't know, are we? And I told her I wanted to be with her and she said "me too" so I said alright then we are together and we kissed. She went and packed a few bags and then got in my car and we hung out for a long time until her train came. We were up all night and day. Her train came at 4pm so we went to the mall, got something to eat, went to other stores like Starbucks to keep us awake and other places. We were just killing time and then at about 1pm we decided we were too tired so went and parked in the train station parking lot and took a nap in the car. The whole day was great though, we were having a good time but were both pretty tired. When we were in my car napping she would lean over and lay on my lap and fall asleep, we got pretty close that day as far as our relationship since at that point we were officially together so it gave us both more security. So she came back from that trip a couple days later, I picked her up from the train station and took her home when she got back which was on the 22nd of September I believe. The week after that I kept taking her to work when I could and picking her up from work every night. * Now just last week on September 30th we hung out all day. She was going back to her friends Scott and Jasons place for a few days to hang out again. This time she was being picked up by them and they drove down to our area to pick her up. That whole night we connected at our best and we talked about so much. We went to her house again so she could pack her bags and she had me come in her room while she packed. This was the first time I'd been in her room. She started changing her shirt and pants in front of me but was in her underwear and bra. I guess she is used to that considering what she does but I was pretty amazed. I was just laying on her bed while she was getting ready and she went and took off her shirt again to change and while her shirt was off she came and laid next to me. I got over her and we started making out. I am not the guy to make moves so fast and I feel dumb for not doing anything else but I didn't. We just made out, that's it. I know she wanted to do more, and so did I but it just didn't happen because I didn't do anything about it. Anyway later that night I took her and dropped her off somewhere that her friends Scott and Jason would meet her. She told me that Scott had a thing for her but she doesn't like him so I shouldn't worry about it. She told me that he was upset that I was driving her and dropping her off because he was jealous of me and she said that I should just drop her off. I told her I didn't want drama so I just dropped her off and went home. She stayed there until October 3rd which was yesterday for me now. While she was out there she wasn't replying to her texts often and was acting a little weird. I was texting her and I all of a sudden got a text back later that night that read "we had her drink a lil' so shed pass out. She was way upset.". I was furious because I knew it was her friends who sent that text from her phone obviously. I didn't know what to think and started freaking out. I was just trying to calm myself down for the next few hours until she texted me at 2am saying "hey. Sorry I fell asleep". I asked her how she was feeling and she said "bad" and I asked why but she never replied to that. The next day I texted her saying "hey" and we started talking and she texted me saying "I'm always treated like * * * * " I asked why what's going on and she didn't reply to that. I told her I can pick her up and take her home and she said it's 3 hours away and didn't want me to. The next day which was yesterday for me, the 3rd of October she texted me in the morning saying "i want to go home". I told her I don't have a problem driving out there to pick her up and not to worry about it and she finally gave in and said ok. So I talked to her and figured out what time I would come get her and where to pick her up. I told her I'd be there around 2am because I get off work at 11. She said that's fine and sent me an address of a gas station to pick her up at. Later that night while I was still at work I got a text from her saying "I think we should b friends". I was confused and pissed and every other emotion all at the same time. I didn't know what to do or say. This is how our convo went... * Her - * I think we should b friends * Me - * Talk to me. What's going on? Her - * Just something that happened a long time ago showed up now. I need to figure out my life and what I am doing before I get into anything * Me - * That's fine. Can you call me and we can talk about it? * Me - * I really don't want this. Can we just talk on the phone? After that she called me and we talked. I asked her what's going on and she didn't want to tell me details about anything. She said she had to go to the doctors and that it had to do with someone else. I was trying to figure everything out for the whole night because she wouldn't tell me. I told her we can talk about it when I go to pick her up that night. She texted me later saying "U will stop talking to me or Ull get mad". I assured her I would not get mad and I would understand. I told her I've been through a lot in my life and I'm more understanding than most people. She told me she couldn't tell me in person and that she would text it to me. She said... "The guy scotty before u and I went out had a thing. Right before u. I had sex with him.... Fill in the blank". I asked her what she is going to do and she said "I'm pregnant and I don't believe in abortion". I just told her we would talk about it when I got out there to pick her up. When I picked her up she came walking from down the street with this Scotty guy.. It killed me to see him because he is some older guy who is 28 years old who looks like he has taken some harsh drugs in his time and drinks a lot. He looks like white trash in my view. Maybe I'm biased.. He was carrying her bags for her and I took them from him and put them in my car. She said bye to him and we left. So me and her started talking about everything of course. As soon as she got in the car she started telling me how she doesn't like him and said "he even walks like a douche" as he was walking away. I didn't say anything to that but when we started driving I talked to her a lot of course. She doesn't know what to do with everything. She told me she doesn't want to be with Scott because he is a * * * * at times. I guess their relationship is back and forth where he can be a * * * * some times but is nice other times. She said she had already went and told Scotts family about it and everything. She is a couple or few months pregnant. I asked her if she still has feelings for me and she said she does but she doesn't know what to do right now. I asked her why she told me she wanted to be friends if she still has feelings for me and she said it's because she thought I wouldn't talk to her anymore after she told me. I am a very understanding person and things happen. I really care for this girl. She is amazing. I got a rose for her before I found out she was pregnant and I had thrown it under her seat in my car when I picked her up because I didn't want Scott to see it. I wanted to give her the rose anyway so while we were driving I told her I had something for her under her said and she looked confused so I went and grabbed it and gave it to her. She started looking away from me because she didn't want me to see her crying. She said she was going to cry. She came and hugged me and I nearly cried as well. While we were talking I asked her if she would still want to be with me and she said yes but she is just confused and needs to figure things out first. I understood that. I honestly don't know what to do in this situation. I really like this girl, I can see myself being with her forever and want to help her with everything so that she is happy. She doesn't want to strip her whole life, she wants to be a model, but who knows how that will go now and she is thinking of that too I'm sure which is why she is so confused on what to do. I told her I'd be there for her when she decides and that I still want to be with her.. After I dropped her off at home and we were saying good bye I gave her a hug and asked her for a kiss and she said she didn't want to. She gave me a kiss on the cheek and then we leaned our foreheads on each others and we ended up kissing. I think she didn't want to kiss me because she was afraid it would be our last. I started driving back home after dropping her off and noticed she left the rose I gave her. I texted her saying.. Me - You forgot your rose Her - * Im sorry this happened and I honestly don't know what to do.but for now I hope you work hard and do your best in everything you Do. Good Luck. Okay so after I read that text I had to pull over in a parking lot because I was crying so hard I could barely see the road. While I was crying I managed to send this text back to her. * Me - * Well I am here once you decide what to do. You're such an amazing person and I'd be so grateful to have someone like you. Things will work out for you and if its not me, I hope another great guy will take care of you and the little one. * I know you'll need time to figure things out but in the mean time it would be nice to keep in touch. It'd be weird not going to Denny's anymore I ended up crying the rest of the way home which was 30 minutes away. It takes a lot for me to cry and the text she sent me just made me break down finally. So I slept ok last night and am writing this at work now to ease my mind about it all I guess. She texted me this morning saying "Hey" which is a good sign that she is still wanting to talk to me. Our conversation was short today. I just asked her if she was still going to work today and she said yeah if she finds a ride. So if you are reading this shorty after I posted it you are now current for what's going on. So I am just trying to figure out what to do with this whole situation. I really like her, I can go as far as saying I love her because I care about her so much. I am so emotionally attached to her and really can see good things if it all works out. Maybe it's just me fantasizing about it all, I don't know. But like I said I am living on my own, I make enough money to be able to support both of us and if she worked still we would definitely have enough money. The thing is, I don't know what to do. Today I was thinking about it and I am just a big mess. I don't want us to end. It would kill me. I know I am young but I think something like a kid and an amazing girl in my life would help me out so much. I don't do good when I'm by myself. I've been alone for over a year now after breaking up with my ex when I was 18 or 19. I need someone to take care of, that's what I live for. I enjoy caring or someone and taking care of them. I want to come home to a family. I don't know what to do. She is talking about moving 3 hours away so she is closer to Scott. I am hoping she would want to move in with me and I can help support her but I have a feeling she will go live with Scott because he is the dad after all. Anyway I'm confused and just need some advice on this entire situation. Anything would be appreciated. Link to comment
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