why would she contact him for anniversary?

[diorme89]

SO my boyfriend and i have been together for about a year. THings are great between us ( I am trying to set up a feel for our relationship), he was in a previous relationship with someone for about 8 years , they were engaged, and he was single for a little over a year before he met me. She contacted him on what would have been their anniversary and he told me why she had texted him when i saw the name pop up on the phone. He told me he responded just saying hope all is well and something else along those lines. My question is what is appropriate for him to answer back?

 

Also another independent question is do you think a year is enough time to get over a serious relationship like that? He told me that they have tried turning every stone over to make it work and obviously it didn't. HELP ME !!!

[somethngwrng]

Sounds like she just texted him on a date that was significant for 8 years. You are with him now and it doesn't sound like he did anything wrong in replying saying "hope everything is ok" (a courteous message). I would let this slide, doesn't sound like he did anything wrong here or anything that infers he still has romantic feelings for her.

[ToF]

Is this the only contact he's had with her?

[SapphireNoir10]

I dont see a problem. He is with you. Not her, she texted him, he replied cordially.

[diorme89]

YOu are absolutely correct and i try to see it that way but i can't help feel like she wants him back , or actually i know she does through someone i know. BUt i guess i just have to worry about him and i and not on what she may try to do.

[diorme89]

SHe has tried contacting him and from what i saw he deleted the message( he didn't know that i knew she had texted him) the message said something about the dreams she was having of him and it all seemed so realistic.

[ToF]

Hmm. I would have a talk with him about this. Personally, I don't think a year is enough time to recover from an eight-year relationship. But that's just me.

[Princess123]

Everyone heals differently. It also depends on if it was mutual, who broke up with who, how it eneded etc. Many circumstances. But you have to take his word for it and trust him that is one of the bases of a relationship. It's eight years, it could just been a habit... afterall it was almost a decade. I'll tell you this my no longer best friend, we knew each other for 8 years. The first time we quit talking I still said happy birthday, but its been two birthdays and I haven't tried. I know it's not a relationship but when you are close with someone its hard to forget things sometimes, habits.

[DN]

It doesn't matter if she wants him back, what matters is if he wants her back and it would appear he doesn't.

[catfeeder]

Responding kindly to someone who was part of your life for 8 years speaks well of him. Are you sure you really want to drive yourself nuts over this?