HELP BF and I have a no bars policy , 'cept when together.

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I am fine with this arrangement as was he. HOWEVER, bf made a left, and was chillin, with the boys. if it is good for

Him why not me. He retaliated when I caught him saying, he is going to go where he wants to go when he wants too. Said doesn't wanna live in my prison. This is a guy that checks on me where ever I go, if I miss a call he is suspect. Some of this behavior is making some sense. I gave him his space unlocked the prison door and booked. I heard he is pissed. Did he ask for this. I am ,was the BEST

gf in the world. Some male opinions PLEASE. Whats going on here?????????

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I do agree- it's a double standard. I don't see anything wrong with an attached guy going to a bar with his friends and vice versa for the girl. Perhaps he wanted the rule to be changed but he sure didn't do a good job of letting you know.

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I am fine with this arrangement as was he.

 

I think what you really need to ask yourself is why you were fine with this arrangement in the first place. Why can't you go to a bar? That's ridiculous.

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Thanks, I thought so. Well now he has all the freedom he wants and I am dusting off the dancing shoes.

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When I go to clubs guys are dogs, when he goes it's to socialize.

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I didn't care I like being with him anyway, well I did,now not so much.

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I didn't care I like being with him anyway, well I did,now not so much.

 

Okay, but WHY didn't you care? You're basically saying that you liked someone enough to let him tell you where you, an adult with your own mind, is allowed to go. That's incredibly unhealthy in my opinion.

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It was what was important to the relationship. And usually we are together on the weekend. It's sneaky that's all and this isn't the first time this happened. He just doesn't want to play by his rules

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It was what was important to the relationship. And usually we are together on the weekend. It's sneaky that's all and this isn't the first time this happened. He just doesn't want to play by his rules

 

I think you are missing the point. Whether it was sneaky or not is irrelevant when the rule he was breaking should never have been a rule to start with, at least not for grownups trying to have healthy interactions.

Good luck.