LoveHurts89 Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 I met a guy four weeks ago, he's very very nice. I'm 22 he's 29. He split with his ex in February, same as me. He has a child with his ex. Last night, we got these text exchanges: He text me yesterday saying: I have a feeling i may have started something with u that i am not going to b able to commit too. Just finding it hard to weight things up. I dont want to bed u and then realise that i am taking on too much as thats not going to b fair on u. I will bell u when u finish work .x So I said something like sorry you feel that way, I told you you were too good to be trying (trying to make light of it) and told him to take care. He replied: Lol too good to b true. I have never herd that before. I just think i have so so much on my plate at the mo. With the constant battle i have with my ex. My hours are going to b really unsocial at work coming up to xmas. I dont think its fair on u for this to b on my terms. Ur am amazing person who i really dont want to hurt, so thought before we take this too the next stage knowing how i was feeling. It would b best to let u know and b honest. I dont think i am ready for a relationship yet until i sort my life out. Hope we will still stay in touch tho as i still really have strong feelings for u. Ps dont want to call u as i feel like a c*nt (to b blunt). I hope ur ok So I told him I didn't want to rush into anything either and that time with his daughter and working hours are not things I'd hold against him. I text a few hours later saying hope you're ok. He said: Not really. Going on a bender as there i have had enough and need to let off some steam. Really nothing against u babe i just get like this when i have a lot to deal with thats all. Hope ur ok xoxox I said: I just want you to know that I'm an understanding person. I may not be a beautiful person on the outside, but I am on the inside and it's taken me a long time to learn that. I'm not ever gonna be * * * * * ty with you about work, or time with your daughter. That's life. Life happens. I'll put myself on the line this once, because you're special, but I won't again as doing that for so long with my ex led to me breaking down. I'm here if you want me to be here, if you want to take things extremely slow, do what we've been doing, little lunches, cinema trips etc. Nothing serious has to happen before either of us are ready for it. If you want to take it slow, just tell me yes. If you text back saying no, I'll respect your decision and walk away xxx He said: 1st of all dont u ever say ur not beautiful. Coz u are! X. Hence y i can never keep my hands off u when we are out! I dont want to decide anything at this point as i have been drinking. I know for a fact i would never want to lose contact with u as u really have put a smile on my face for the past few weeks. Xoxoxo. Then I said so I assume I'm cancelling my annual leave (we have tomorrow and Wednesday booked off) and he said no babe, keep it booked off, we'll do something. I then told him to reply to my message earlier about taking it slow or walking away once he's sober and he said: Ur putting pressure on me by sending a text like that babe. I like u a lot and dont want too end what we have. But with other things that are going on that u dont know about its really hard for me to committ to a relationship. I am out with rob this evening lo just talk and then i will go from there. On that note i will talk to u tomorrow x Christ knows! If he doesn't get in touch by this afternoon, I'm cancelling my leave and saying goodnight. He may be absolutely gorgeous and have made me very happy recently, but I'm not about to get in to another round of playing yoyo with my feelings. . . . . . . . . . . Now, he's a very nice guy and I'd like something to happen, but I'm also not willing to be messed about as I was with my ex. Any advice guys? Thanks in advance. Link to comment
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