lost the love of my life

[LexMan]

okay i am going to do this the best i can i know i am going to get a lot of let her go but it is not that easy to explane so i will do my best

 

my gf of 2.9 years just randomly told me it was over she told me she lost the love she had fore me there was no more pashon and she broke up with me she told me she just wants to be single and enjoy life and see what she can do on her own pick up guys at bars ext....

 

she also told me that the felling she has for me or i gess " had" she dose not want fore any one els but me

 

this is a small bit of a msg she sent me ( she is 21 has not bean single sense highschool)

 

 

But honestly, I put so much energy into carrying on my own life as a working student that I hardly have any left to work on a long-term relationship. Especially not a loving, MUTUAL-caring relationship that you deserve. You are a great, caring person and you deserve to have someone who will treat you right. Not throw you to the side when they get stressed or hurt by other things, but someone who will work with you and appreciate your true beautiful qualities you have to offer. And I feel like I'm definitely not that person, at least not at this time.

 

I understand you say you are willing to stay friends with me, and I personally do like that idea. But as Alleigh and a couple other of your friends have pointed out to me, I'm giving you the impression that this will be a quick "phase" in my life and I'll run straight back to you. Which, I'm sorry to say, I don't think will happen. It may, it may not, whatever happens, happens. But it sucks that you are willing to put forth the effort to watch me be with other men

 

 

 

 

i know this is a lot to read and i hope some one will take the time to read all of it and help me

 

my ? is this should i try to stay a friend it is going to hurt but it is what he wants and to be honest i want it to she truly is the love of my life i want to grow old and have kids ext.... with her and only her but i know all girls go threw this fase but should i stay around and wate for her

i know she steal has fealings she is just hideing them right now so it will not affect her wanting to be "single"

[Imthatguy]

Go to No Contact man. Being just friends with her will be extremely bad for you if she continues to follow through with these poor choices. And the way she says "you deserve someone better" is bull, she's just trying to make herself feel better. The classic martyr attitude.

 

Just drop her out of your life and focus on yourself. Do the things you want to do without even thinking of her (which will be tough granted) and you'll be all the better for it. And if she comes back around well then you'll be in a good position to decide if being with her is what you want. I know right now it is, but once you move on and past the cloud of emotions post breakup things might be different.

[LexMan]

but how long do i do the no contact i hate to say it but we both aggrey that this might be for the best if this is what opens her eys it is what i want to do

also know that If we really are meant to be together, now is the time that will start to become clear to us both. I am going to try not to over analyze things and just go with the flow. If this relationship really is meant to be, things will work out fine.

 

i dont want to just not be there and to be honest after 2 day i did plan on the no contact but i dont want to just set and wate months for her to call me i havebean putting focus on my self and Do the things you want to do it just steal hurts

 

 

being "friends" is what makes her happy she told me she could not tale it if i just walked out and makeing her happy makes me happy

Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections and to find true happynes you have to be willing to be comptley cut open

[LexMan]

but how long do i do the no contact i hate to say it but we both aggrey that this might be for the best if this is what opens her eys it is what i want to do

also know that If we really are meant to be together, now is the time that will start to become clear to us both. I am going to try not to over analyze things and just go with the flow. If this relationship really is meant to be, things will work out fine.

 

i dont want to just not be there and to be honest after 2 day i did plan on the no contact but i dont want to just set and wate months for her to call me i havebean putting focus on my self and Do the things you want to do it just steal hurts

 

 

being "friends" is what makes her happy she told me she could not tale it if i just walked out and makeing her happy makes me happy

Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections and to find true happynes you have to be willing to be comptley cut open