my NC challenge FAILED!

[charliebaby]

i couldnt even gt past day 1.

i CANT DO THIS!! i want him in my life so bad

im sitting here thinking, what did i ever do to deserve this?

[Seraphin]

Minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day.

 

Dont expect to run a marathon if you havent done anything like it before.

 

 

Things will be tough but the best thing to think about is that he was willing to leave. Do you want someone back who was willing to leave you in your time of need?

[RitaTrue]

Everyone feels this way, OP. But, you have to put yourself and your healing first.

 

It may help to get some encouragement from other in the same situation as you:

 

--> No Contact Challenge Thread

 

-->Post Here Instead Of Contacting Your Ex Thread

 

You'll find that you feel stronger talking to others, than handling it alone. You'll also see a better view of your relationship with others there as well.

 

Take it second by second, minute by minute, day by day, as Charlie said. It DOES get better with time.

[Moontiger]

Oh, I have been there! NC is VERY difficult at first. I didn't make it 24 hours after I was dumped before I sent a text message to my ex.

 

I was like you, I wanted my ex in my life, I thought we were meant to be together. Here is the problem with that, my ex didn't want me in his life, so any contact I made come off as clingy and just pushed him farther away. I went NC and began to heal, then one day I got a two page email from him begging for me back. I was strong enough at that point to tell him where to stick it.

 

Every time you feel like contacting your ex visit the links RitaTrue has posted, call a friend, count to 100, anything to distract you.

[LaKings55]

I suppose my words meant nothing then. I recommend seeking professional advice then

[LaKings55]

I believe these were your words to another member "you believe what he says? ive been through this stage with my ex.. your defending him, because you want to believe what he says.. he hasnt slept with his new gf? hmm.. im not saying he has for deffo.. but jus dont e so gullable.. your the one whos getting hurt."

[charliebaby]

I suppose my words meant nothing then. I recommend seeking professional advice then

 

your words did mean somet, i let my heart take over my head. i feel really stupid about it now...

 

and yeah i wrote that, cause giving advice to someone is alot easier than taking the advice.

the way im thinking is.. tomorrow is a new day.. start again & this time stick to it!

[charliebaby]

Oh, I have been there! NC is VERY difficult at first. I didn't make it 24 hours after I was dumped before I sent a text message to my ex.

 

I was like you, I wanted my ex in my life, I thought we were meant to be together. Here is the problem with that, my ex didn't want me in his life, so any contact I made come off as clingy and just pushed him farther away. I went NC and began to heal, then one day I got a two page email from him begging for me back. I was strong enough at that point to tell him where to stick it.

 

Every time you feel like contacting your ex visit the links RitaTrue has posted, call a friend, count to 100, anything to distract you.

 

 

yeha ive pretty much pushed my ex to his new girlfriend.. my fault there together right now..

i cant wait to be that strong although i dont think he will come running back now he has a new gf

i have wrote out a few msgs that i wanted to send to make him come back, but i no it wont work so there was no point..

it helps knowing people have gone through this and come out better off thanks.

[LaKings55]

He made his decision before you broke up,that's on him, not you.