Time to Move On? or time to be together?

[koala725]

i'm very close friends with my ex, although it has been very tough. we dated almost 2 years and have been broken up for about 2 years. both seniors in college. both trying to figure out what we want to do with our lives. recently this summer we finally came out with it that we liked each other still and had feelings, yet he added its just he doesnt know what he wants. i'm a little bit blinded when it comes to him/his words/actions which is why im posting here to hopefully get some feedback. he openly expressed he gets jealous if im with some other guy (even though havent dated really since) and same with me about him (although he hasnt really dated since either). My ex went to study abroad for 6 months so this summer was the 1st time we saw each other for a while, which i'm not sure is the reason why we felt we needed to be closer than ever.

 

Im just confused because i feel as though with my plans and his plans, we both are just too focused on ourselves to make time for each other. or at least..thats how he acts. hes very ambitious which i love about him, but it's all about that and hes even trying to do a fellowship abroad somewhere for a whole year after he graduates college in the spring. i just dont know if he wants me bad enough anymore to make a little room for me in his plans; or if its all about himself and im just a friend. so i dont know whether to have the attitude of: forget him he doesnt care about ever getting back together or maybe i need to just tell him i want to try to be together and if he doesnt want that we just cant be friends because its too tough to try to act like a friend when i have feelings that are anything but friendly. i can tell he has thought about me..but at the same time i know hes really confused at the same time. some of our friends have even made comments about him not even being straight which is the reason why we arent together. i think otherwise but of course im going to say that because i have feelings for him haha. i dont know what to do anymore. kind of miserable

[DylanNotorious]

Well if he ain't straight - it's def time to move on!

 

But what an odd thing to say, coming from his friends.

[koala725]

yeah..some friends! but its just always been very ambiguous. i guess his friends are 'afraid' he'll never truly make a decision based on the fact that hes confused or doesnt 'admit' his sexuality. i think they may just be labeling him when he hasnt even said anything or done anything to make people think it. its a bit complicated haha..