arod111 Posted October 1, 2011 Share Posted October 1, 2011 I met someone through a friend and we seemed to click from day 1. It's been almost 6 months since I've been seeing this person and up until 2 months ago things were going really well. This man is currently going through a divorce he is legally separated from his wife. They have a 4 year old son. The beginning as in all new "relationships" was very exciting, We would see each other at least once a week, text every few days and talk at least once a week. He displayed lots of enthusiasm and interest, always initiating contact, asking for dates, being very affectionate etc. me... not so much. I was in a relationship for 11 years that had a very bad ending and have since put up walls, encased in barbed wire... with and electrified fence behind all that. I am not quick to display emotions or invest myself emotionally into something so recent. We started sleeping together about a month and a half (about 8 dates) into this. Like I said he was always very affectionate. Lots of hand holding and cuddling. he would stare at me with a smile on his face (that would kind of freak me out) overall he seemed to be very into me, me and my walls I refused to believe he was really into me and constantly misread all his actions and doubted his intentions. He never asked for exclusivity although he asked if I was dating others, I was and I was honest. He and I did not have a formalized relationship so I assumed we were at liberty to see others. 2 months ago he asked if I was sleeping with other people (I am not) and I told him it wasn't any of his business. I understand that it IS in fact his business as whomever I'm sleeping with, he's sleeping with, but I'm not the type of person to sleep with multiple partners and I let him know this when we first slept together and I was caught off guard and I thought he was asking because he wanted me to know that HE was sleeping with others and I shouldn't get so attached (my guard at it's best). Ever since then he has changed drastically. He stopped reaching out, and when he does I feel like it's to be polite as he hasn't asked for a date. He did ask to see me about a month ago then canceled never rescheduled. I asked for a date last week and got one but having not seen him for over a month it was extremely awkward. We had very poor conversation, but did have sex. He brought up the sleeping with others question and I admitted that I was not and that he had caught me off guard originally. He told me he wasn't sleeping with anyone else and had not since we started talking. At the end of the night when he walked me out he said "I'm glad I could be of service to you tonight". I did not understand what he meant by that, I was completely caught off guard and did not respond. He clearly thinks I'm using and that I'm sleeping around and this is not the case.Txtd him that night and have not gotten a response from him. I understand that I was not displaying that much interest originally, but I don't see why he would think I wasn't interested. I'm hurt by his comment and this recent lack of interest although I understand I'm at fault. He would ask me why I never called or txtd etc....I haven't heard from him and I don't think he will be reaching out but i am dissapointed as I did feel a genuine connection with him. I was fighting all these emotions but not having him around for so long brought them to the surface. Is there anyway I can reverse this? Link to comment
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