Snowboarder Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Okay so my girlfriend and I have been going out for a few weeks, but prior to this I had liked her for awhile. She said she really liked me too (likes still? I hope...>. She's completely normal though when we hang out, she seems really happy and interested in me. Now another thing that kind of bothers me though, this guy that (idk if she knows him in real life or not... I haven't brought him up yet in a conversation, idk how I would) keeps posting on her wall and on her status's. One implying something along the lines of "Ohh, well I'm ganna come visit you and your ganna teach me how to do this (Nothing sexual, but still kind of bothers me... Why would he travel 3-4 hours just to come see her unless he's interested in her?). Before we got together he was always posting flirtatious stuff on her stuff... It just sketches me out. I don't say anything though because I don't know if I'm over reacting or not... What do you guys think? Am I over reacting? Or...? And why would she lie about stuff like that? I don't understand. >. Link to comment
Princess123 Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Facebook the death of relationships. Lacking? Trust. Link to comment
John3572 Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 She's a game player and liar. It might be best to cut your loses now. Link to comment
blackhawks1287 Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Well if she says he phone got taken away and then updates and states via mobile phone...then well...um... You can decide if you want to put up with this nonsense. I would prefer to be in a relationship where I didn't have to second guess my girlfriends actions. Link to comment
nabeerockz Posted October 1, 2011 Share Posted October 1, 2011 just talk to her man... thats the only way to eliminate all your doubts Link to comment
robintoronto Posted October 2, 2011 Share Posted October 2, 2011 Ok I think you're over-reacting. She may be lying and she may have her reasons. And it may or may not work out between both of you in the near future. But I think there is a bigger issue here. Your insecurity. And it will lead to breakdown of all your future relationships if you don't address it. Sensitivity leads to insecurity. Insecurity leads to lack of trust. Lack of trust leads to Anger/Anxiety/Suffering/etc. And that will eventually lead to emotional abuse to your partner by you. Be it this girl or even if the right girl comes along in the future. She will get hurt and leave you. Link to comment
Snowboarder Posted October 2, 2011 Author Share Posted October 2, 2011 Ok I think you're over-reacting. She may be lying and she may have her reasons. And it may or may not work out between both of you in the near future. But I think there is a bigger issue here. Your insecurity. And it will lead to breakdown of all your future relationships if you don't address it. Sensitivity leads to insecurity. Insecurity leads to lack of trust. Lack of trust leads to Anger/Anxiety/Suffering/etc. And that will eventually lead to emotional abuse to your partner by you. Be it this girl or even if the right girl comes along in the future. She will get hurt and leave you. First off..... I would never ever abuse my significant other... Anyway, I guess I'm supposed to be comfortable with her lying and visiting with a guy who flirts with her a lot. I know that I'm insecure, and I know I'm probably over reacting, but I know I'd be under reacting if it didn't bother me even a little bit. I'm working on my insecurities, and I'm honestly not as insecure as I used to be. Link to comment
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