Ivan459 Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 Hey everyone, new poster here. Hoping some of you all can just share some thoughts on my situation and perhaps help me out a bit. And I apologize in advance for the long first post, but I just feel like I need to get this off my chest. To start, I have been doing a karate class now for over 2 and a half years now, and there is a girl there that I have been taking the class with since I started. Over time I have developed feelings for her big time. At first I never really approached her until she asked me out to lunch randomly earlier this year and to her birthday dinner (during this time she had a boyfriend, and no I didn't go). After that I began to really wonder about her a lot. She broke up with said boyfriend over the summer, and I was able to get her to go to some movies with me, eat out together, etc. She even trusted me enough to ask me to watch a movie with her at her house when her parents were away. Even during these classes she flirts with me quite a bit at times. However, she doesn't go out of her way to spend time with me. For instance, if we do something together, I generally don't do anything with her for 2-3 weeks sometimes. She has told me she is a "heartbreaker", and back in early August said she wasn't really looking for anything then. I realize there are many fish in the sea, but where I live there isn't anything here that I would waste my time with. This girl and I always hit it off well together, but I just wonder if I am in the friend zone or not. I guess the question I want to ask is does anyone think just telling her how I feel is a good idea? Or should I just try and distance myself from her? This has been driving me crazy to the point to where I am feeling lonely and depressed thinking she might be looking for someone or something else. I just want to tell her so that I might get a straight answer as to where I stand with her. I'm not really looking for a physical relationship, I just want to spend more time with her because I feel so happy being with her, and if I had to guess I'd say she enjoys being with me (but I don't know this is a certainty; all I know is all our "dates" have gone great). I don't however, want to make this an uncomfortable situation for us both while we still go to the same class. I appreciate any thoughts you all might have! Link to comment
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