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Are some guys incapable of letting their ex move on? Do they have some radar?

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Reflective Enthusiast

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Like really...

 

I don't think it's a coincidence anymore.

Every time something looks up for me in terms of dating my ex or one of them happen to pop up..

Just last night I had a 3 hour long convo with that guy I was FWB we are thinking about making it exclusive. So I wake up, a text that my best friend needs to speak to me. She comes over, and tells me how

her brother is not over me. I was shocked. Absolutely shocked. She said "I didnt wanna tell you this but he talks about you all the time. I was at his place just now spent the night and he wouldn't stop. Kept talking about all the good times you guys had how much he misses you, and how in 2 days it would have been your 3 year anniversary.. I don't know. I kept

my mouth shut this entire time but I think you need to know this."

 

I broke up with him.. The relationship reached it's end. It was a little unhealthy both on our parts.. I loved him a lot but I just had to end it. It hurt him badly, but I couldn't be with him. I moved on and trust me it wasn't easy. But I did. And things are really looking up for me. but I find anytime I am moving on with someone else he comes back.. even when I dont even see him? Do guys just have some radar?

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Reflective Enthusiast

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Umm, I can't see how he is coming back?

 

Just because he is still not over you doesn't mean he wants to come back.

 

If he did want to come back, he would've contacted you?

Ummmmmm he did contact me. Apparently he's been contacting me for awhile now but I blocked him on facebook, hotmail, blocked his number basically anything to make me forget his existence. He's in and out of town with university and whatnot but apparently he's back in the city for good.

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You mean, apparently he's been TRYING to contact you, but haven't made any contact yet?

 

I'm confused.

 

If you blocked him from everything, then how can he contact you?

Wow.

 

1. He contacted me. (He called my home phone the other day, I realized it was him he just changed his name.

2. He has been contacting me the entire time. (he emailed me a lot, and called my cell phone but it never worked. That's what he told me, and I told him I blocked him that's why it "never worked."

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r0ckox Enthusiast

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Wow.

 

1. He contacted me. (He called my home phone the other day, I realized it was him he just changed his name.

2. He has been contacting me the entire time. (he emailed me a lot, and called my cell phone but it never worked. That's what he told me, and I told him I blocked him that's why it "never worked."

 

You failed to mention that the first time around, hence why it looks confusing.

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Cheetarah Mentor

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Are you going to give me advice or continue to critique unnecessarily just curious here..

 

Difference between clarification and critiquing.

 

Some people have a hard time letting go. Especially people who live in their past, in their memories. Things get glamorized in time. The bad or unhealthy is forgotten and the good put on a pedestal.

 

I don't know about radar, but I know what you mean. It has felt at times that my exes have a 'sixth sense' about when I am moving on, and that's when they reappear in my life(sometimes out of nowhere, after who knows how long of no contact).

 

But, who knows what your friend tells your brother as well, about your romantic life. Maybe she said something in passing.

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I think people are honestly tired of these generalizing threads you make on a daily basis, and it doesn't really change much if you add "some guys". How about instead of posting that, why don't you title it something like "Why can't this guy let it go?"

 

Also, this is another thread that contradicts the one you made a month ago about having never having physically touched a male, and being afraid to do so (which you've never addressed).

 

This is the last time I'll point it out, hopefully you'll explain the contradictions because otherwise I'm starting to think you're making things up just to generate attention.

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PaintWithLight Apprentice

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No we don't have radar. This just sounds like a family member getting involved in a romance. You should thank her for her concern but tell her that the relationship is over and you are sure her brother understands that as well.

 

Strong and clear statements like this will help ex-boyfriends from popping back up to take another run at love. We only do that when we think the door is not truly closed. Knock off the rose-colored glasses and they will see things clearly. Good luck.

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annie24 Grand Master

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I think people are honestly tired of these generalizing threads you make on a daily basis, and it doesn't really change much if you add "some guys". How about instead of posting that, why don't you title it something like "Why can't this guy let it go?"

 

That is very true - this is one guy.

 

I've had several (not all) ex-boyfriends come back months or years later, wanting a second chance. One even professing his undying love and wanting to get married. In most of those instances, they were the one to break things off (or act like a jerk enough to make me break it off), but I suspect missed me or realized I really liked them and then they want to get back together. After 4 years? no thanks. I've moved on.

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I think people are honestly tired of these generalizing threads you make on a daily basis, and it doesn't really change much if you add "some guys". How about instead of posting that, why don't you title it something like "Why can't this guy let it go?"

 

Also, this is another thread that contradicts the one you made a month ago about having never having physically touched a male, and being afraid to do so (which you've never addressed).

 

This is the last time I'll point it out, hopefully you'll explain the contradictions because otherwise I'm starting to think you're making things up just to generate attention.

 

I am curious as well but I do remember 1 of her thread said the FWB relationship is purely 3rd base related. Care for clarification Reflective or should I just think you are a troll then?

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