igo Posted September 29, 2011 Share Posted September 29, 2011 I posted about this a while back but, I figured I would give it it's own thread. Here is what happened to me. I meet this girl at church. We seem to have a lot of common interests. We go out for a bike ride around the city. It was a short / relaxed date. We seem to hit it off pretty good and I hung out for a bit at her house after the bike ride and we had pretty good conversation. We had pretty good eye contact and I gave her a hug on the way out. A few days later I try to get the second date set up (dinner and a movie) and she was too busy to do anything. I get the hint and end the call. I sent her an email the next day so I could get a little more information. This is her response: [...]I had a good time and we did click, but only on a friend level. I also really do not have time to date anyone right now. I'm really not interested in starting a relationship--regardless of who its with. I have a lot on my plate with grad school, teaching and [...] coming up. I've realized over the past few years that I need to be taking care of myself before I can have a relationship with anyone else and recently, I haven't been taking care of myself quite as well as I should. So, I need to focus on the things that matter most to me right now and having a relationship just isn't one of them. That's all I really have to say, which probably doesn't help That was around a month ago. Since then We have had some interaction over facebook and text. Plus, I see her 2 days a week at church and we chat for a bit most days. I realized that she IS insanely busy (that was not just a made up story). She is working on her PHD and spends around 50-55 hours between lab and teaching. And then does yoga a few days a week and church 2 days a week. I still have feelings for her but, I realize their is no way that she could have a relationship with her crazy schedule. I am looking on an online dating site and other places for women. I just can't get this girl out of my head and the situation sucks. I wouldn't say I am completely "friend-zoned" either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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