Porn, your views on this?

[Ministottie]

So last night I couldn't sleep and came downstairs to type some work up. I went to retrieve a webpage from the history on the computer and noticed some porn that my partner had been looking at. Now I know he looks at porn, and thats totally fine with me as long as it doesn't affect our sex life, however this porn is not something I expected him to be watching. Basically its cartoon characters, such as the simpsons, engaged in sexual acts. I don't know whether to be happy that he isn't looking at real life porn and comparing me to the women in that, or a bit weirded out.

 

I can't say anything to him because it will look like I was spying, and I can see how it would look like that. What he does in his own time is up to him, of course, but I was just suprised by the content. Now I wish I hadn't even seen it because I feel odd about it all.

 

So my question to you is, what is your opinion on porn in a relationship, especially odd stuff?

[DrKitten]

He may be into that stuff or may have just clicked an ad out of morbid curiosity. I wouldn't worry about it.

[Smile12]

Maybe he was looking at it for a laugh? not sexually? I mean, idk, it just sounds rather humorous.

[dolorosa]

Sometimes the cartoon stuff comes up when you watching porn.... haha I like porn

[Captain Obvious]

Why would it look like youre spying if you have a good reason to be looking at the history? Maybe it is best just to keep out of it but I dont see why you cant just be able to ask him.

[Day_Walker]

I dont see an issue with porn unless it becomes an addiction, then it needs to be addressed.

[UniqueSoul]

i would ignore it. its his privacy. he has a right to privacy

[greywolf]

You would be rather surprised at some of the things people watch. This sounds pretty mild.

[OptomisticGirl]

I agree with Greywolf. I have clicked a few henati links in my day out of curiosity....

[Fudgie]

I used to look at porn more in the past (may start again) and yeah, the cartoon stuff is usually mixed in with the "real" stuff. I wouldn't worry.

 

Unless he gets into something really gross/violent like, S&M to the point that the woman gets certain "parts" chopped off by a sex partner or something, well, I wouldn't worry.

[midnightdeirdre]

I once heard, "If a man is sleeping with the hottest woman on the planet, he's still giong to look at porn." It's the truth. Don't let it bother you.

 

However...I'm curious as to why the Simpsons Porn turned him on. Maybe it doesn't, maybe he clicked it for a laugh. Ask if you want.

[Mesemene]

I had to chuckle a little. A lot of guys find it humorous and send each other links, or find them, of cartoon porn.

 

I've seen some myself that (usually male) friends have sent, that inspire a quick snicker and "oh now, that's just so wrong in so many ways!" reaction.

 

Unless it starts replacing a healthy sex life, eh, no harm, no foul.

[jaysmaury]

Anytime one of my gf's "checked the history for an old link" it was totally a cover for spying.

[Miss Kitty]

I agree. Even if he is into something weird, it's his thing. I also agree that he could be into a lot weirder stuff. Also, as someone who likes hentai and furry porn, I can tell you, that weird stuff can come up when looking for the good stuff. About 90 percent of the stuff I come accross is weird * * * * that does nothing for me. Then I'll get that gem. He may have been looking for the sexy little Japanese chick of a gem when he stumbled accross little yellow pointy haired Lisa. Who knows.

 

I'm surprised he didn't use the incognito window or erase the history. Obviously since he didn't, either he's not worried about you finding it (perhaps because he doesn't think it'll bother you) or else he just doesn't know how. Either way, it's not a big deal.

[Ministottie]

Yeh I pretty much thought the same as everyone else. It didn't bother me as such, just suprised me. And no I genuinely wasn't spying, I never would and never have because I trust him, its not like he is cheating watching a bit of porn. Don't most people?

 

Thanks for the replies

[Brownstone322]

Anytime one of my gf's "checked the history for an old link" it was totally a cover for spying.

Amen to that. I didn't believe that for a second.

 

" Don't look for it, Taylor ... You may not like what you find."

[Lonewing]

he's looking at porn. what did you expect?

[Stay_home]

Seen worse. Heard worse stories. I think porn is harmless as long as it doesn't affect one's sex and personal life to the point where it becomes paralyzing.

[SuperBearGo]

It's not really anything to worry about, my boyfriend only likes the anime porn (and that's cartoon drawn porn). because it's drawn they can do stuff in that porn, that you can't really get from real porn. like my partner likes the humiliation porn. and in the cartoon porn you can see a person having sex on a crowded street with people watching. you can't get that in real porn. plus you can see the sex at angles you don't get in real porn. plus with the draw porn they can over exaggerate alot of stuff ranging from the size of parts to other stuff (i don't really want to say)

[Alezia]

I don't know, I don't think it's all that bad. If he was into corpses or something... then I'd sleep with my eyes opened.

[delicous]

Anime porn is pretty common. I wouldn't be too wierded out by it, perhaps you can try dressing up and wearing your hair like the female in the video? lol

[jaysmaury]

he's looking at porn. what did you expect?

 

Some privacy and a few tissues maybe...?

 

Women should really try to calm down when it comes to porn and make an attempt to enjoy it. The one gf I had that watched porn with me was the best one ever. Best sex of our lives. Or you can go the traditional route and make your SO feel guilty and ashamed which forces him to hide it from you. Either way, a guy will get his porn fix.

[Fudgie]

I think at least looking at porn with your SO, like jays said, is a great idea.

 

Both my bf and I enjoy porn. We haven't looked at it together yet but we plan to. It's fun! It's not like he's crushing on/wanting to be with the girls in the videos. I see it as just a bit of fun.

[In the Dark]

Those cartoon ones are humorous to me.

The Simpsons, Family Guy etc....

I don't see these as harmful or seeing the person watching them as warped.

 

Some sexual things can be enjoyed purely as fantasy but quickly become awkward in reality.

[SongCoyote]

Porn in and of itself is a bizarre fantasy; a lot of it is quite unconnected with "real life" (except in the most basic "tab A + slot B" way), so cartoon porn isn't that ridiculous, and some of it is kind of funny. As far as I'm concerned, the hard lines are pedophilia, snuff, scat, and bestiality; but those are my lines. Of course, I'm a little odd, and pro-responsible-porn, so there's your grain of salt

 

Light and laughter,

SongCoyote