what happened to us?

[UniqueSoul]

Hey Everyone,

These past 2 weeks have been especially hard on my relationship. Ive been having feelings of jealousy (to the max) and feelings like he is going to cheat on me or leave me. (more so when I am sleeping, I dream that he cheats on me) Things have been rough for a few months, but we always seemed to handle our conflicts. I dont know what happened. I dont know what changed my relationship so much to make me not trust or feel so bad all the time. Has this happened to anyone? Has anyone experienced such a jolt to change in a relationship? Maybe it is a phase and since things are serious between us, i'm just creating issues where there arent any...in a self sabotage type of way. I need some help.

[hangingout]

Has he given you any reason at all to suspect infidelity? Does he make you feel insecure by calling you names or commenting on other women's looks or putting you down? Any unexplained absences or expenditures? - If not then you should just stop worrying and believe in him and yourself.

[UniqueSoul]

No he doesnt do anything like that. no reason to feel this way. Im going through some weird times. thanks for the advice

[ClarenceRutherford]

I dont know what happened. I dont know what changed my relationship so much to make me not trust or feel so bad all the time.

 

Perhaps your "inner sense" is telling you something.

 

If you feel conflicted, it never hurts to take some time and "clarify" your relationship.

Consider telling him you need some time to be free to think things through. That you're "taking a break" in the relationship and are doing so to make sure you two are right for each other.

See how he reacts.

 

 

This great song from the early 70s shows a healthy perspective on someone wanting to take a break...

Listen to the words. Notice how the singer isn't crushed when his partner wants "some time to be free..."

Bread - It Don't Matter to Me.

[UniqueSoul]

I know my inner sense is telling me something but im not sure if it is even about my relationship. i dont believe in taking breaks. i feel as if they only hurt the trust

[ClarenceRutherford]

I know my inner sense is telling me something but im not sure if it is even about my relationship. i dont believe in taking breaks. i feel as if they only hurt the trust

Thinking things through never really hurts, and can only help as you've gone through all your thoughts and "chosen" your partner.

One partner wanting to clarify things won't hurt trust. The partnership should be voluntary.

[quirky]

I have had difficulties in my relationship too for the past 6 weeks, it is draining.

 

How are other areas of your life?

[UniqueSoul]

meh. the other areas are grey. recent college grad working a job relatively close to my chosen profession. I have a lot of questions and doubts. recently ive been super super jealous with my man. almost crippling. it sucks, because nothing is going on.

[quirky]

It is probably a reflection of how you feel overall. Try to be objective, don't obsess over things, it's not worth it you know? The only remedy here is to do things for yourself, go to link removed, buy a new dress, write a poem, go for a walk, meet with a friend, do something you used to enjoy doing. Overthinking stuff hardly ever leads to a solution. Do a few things and the answers will come in the process, you'll see.