Lavender25 Posted September 28, 2011 Share Posted September 28, 2011 I just wanted to run this past you guys and get a little advice. My ex and I have been broken up for over 4 months now and while we work in the same building, we've been pretty much NC. I haven't seen him since the night we broke up, but he's been reaching out to me in some form about once a month for the past 2-3 months. For those that don't remember, he broke it off very suddenly saying that there wasn't a spark and didn't know if he saw a future. But based on his emotional state at the time (he was crying) and how sudden it all was, I didn't believe his reasoning. I was very heartbroken but I told him that I wanted to respect his decision and that I didn't think I could be friends but if he wanted to try again then he knew how to get in touch. Most of the contact has been via text with him asking how I am. We chat back and forth for a bit about our lives, but then conversation drops off and I don't hear from him for another month. We have somehow developed some mutual friends through our jobs and I've heard about him mentioning me to people. He has made no mention of having made a mistake or wanting to get back together. I know that's the big thing a lot of you are going to point out and I know that is important, however, I don't think my ex is the kind of guy to be brave enough and come out and say that. I'm even surprised to be getting any kind of communication from him at all. I find his personality to be laid back but also very timid in certain situations. I also don't know if he would make the "first move" because the night we met, I pretty much did that. The last contact we had is what has been boggling my mind. I changed my routine and went to the gym really late one night, got home and logged onto Skype. I had stopped logging in because I really only talked to him on it and I didn't want to keep checking to see if he was on or not. Well, this time he was on and he messaged me almost immediately. He asked if I was there and I paused for a moment in shock, but then told him I was and we started talking. He started the conversation saying that he remembered something embarrassing but thought I would find it funny. Then he told me about the night when we'd first met and started talking and how he got nervous and left the bar to walk around in the snow for a while and ate some granola bars. I did find it funny because he has an unhealthy addiction to a certain granola bar and I always made fun of him for having at least one on his person at all times. I even bought him an entire case for his birthday. I laughed when he told me and then the conversation continued for about an hour. We just talked about work and our job searches. We are still friends on facebook and I know he's been keeping tabs on me. He asked about the interviews I've had and when I told him that the one I wanted was in Seattle he said, "and you'd be willing to move there?" I told him yes but that the position was only from Feb-Dec and I didn't know what I would do after that. He said "oh, ok that's very cool then. And Washington and Oregon look stunning." A bit more chit chat and then our connection started to get bad and it was late so I told him that I had to get to bed but that it was really nice talking to him and he said the same and we both said goodnight. *Sigh* I don't know if any of this means anything. If anything, I'm glad we spoke because I've missed him so much. I don't feel like chatting with him has set me back. I haven't felt poorly emotionally or anything. I will go forward with this move because it's something that I want and feel like I NEED to do, but I know I would reconcile with him if I had the chance. I mean, I know he's looking for a new job and he said he would move anywhere for one. He could come with? But I guess I'm jumping the gun here because there was no talk of reconciliation... Anyone have any insight here? Link to comment
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