gluestick Posted September 27, 2011 Share Posted September 27, 2011 If you are the dumper or have been in the past, when you wanted to reconcile with an ex-bf/gf, what were the reasons why you wanted to give the relationship another shot and how did the reconciliation come about? In other words, did you initiate contact or did the dumpee initiate contact after time apart? Or did you accidentally run into each other and that's how you were able to reconnect? Did you realize you still loved/cared about your ex after dating others or having had other relationships that did not work out? Or did you maintain a purely platonic friendship after reconnecting and sparks flew again? Please describe your feelings and experience with as much detail as possible. Here is my cousin's story: My cousin and his first love broke up because she wanted to settle down and get married, but he wasn't ready. She kept pressuring him and finally he couldn't take it anymore. One small flight turned into a breakup. He wanted to remain friends, but she wanted NC. They stayed NC for 2 years. She finally moved on after 2 years and fell in love with another guy but decided to visit my cousin and his family one last time before settling down with her new love. She and my cousin spent 2 days hanging out as friends, and my cousin realized he still loved her and that she was the woman he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. He told her how he felt and ultimately his wife had to choose between my cousin and her new love. She decided to go with my cousin as they had so much history together and they were more comfortable with one another. 4 months later they got married and they are happier than they've ever been. My cousin said he did have feelings for 2 girls during his separation, but never pursued them stating he knew they wouldn't have worked out. He said the most important thing was he grew up and matured during the 2 year separation. Even though he missed her from time to time, he said he never would have taken the first step to initiated contact. He thought when she said she wanted NC, it meant NC forever and pretty much took her words as is. Throughout those 2 years, however, his wife had tried to reconcile with him, but he would turn her down every time. She finally realized that it was over between them and decided to move on and fall in love again. She only initiated contact with my cousin after she found someone new in her life. Their story worked out, but I also know someone who broke up with his long term gf only to realize he made a mistake a few months later. He wanted to reconcile, but she's dating other people now. They still love each other, but I'm not sure how their story will end. Link to comment
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