Debating whether I should move

[aLucidMind]

I make my bills but occassionally I wind up going paycheck-to-paycheck. I live down in SC but my entire family lives up in PA. I'm debating whether I should move back up to PA or not. I don't know if it will definitely be easier but I'll have family. But the thing is that me and my family aren't exactly close; I barely know almost everyone in my family (several of them to the extent of being close-strangers). The only thing keeping me here is I also don't know if I'll have a job up north (I'll be transfering to the store in-town). I only have one friend down here and she and I are literally all we have down here (been friends for 4 years).

 

If I do move, I'll be moving into a small town and I live in a very big tourist area (that is also a very big retirement area as well) with literally nothing to do during the fall and winter unless you're into bars and clubs which I am not. I'm more of a homebody than anything else. Being in this town irritates me sometimes as well, partly because I have a hard time meeting anyone (whether it be friend or a girl) because I constantly run into the kind of people who irritate me or are simply not fun to talk to or be around (due to negativity or egotism). Might have better luck in a small town lol.

 

I really would like some second opinions and thoughts because I really don't know what I should do.

[Jetta]

If your family is virtual strangers and the town makes you irritable at best, why would you consider moving there? Especially if it's a tourist type of town, jobs won't be plentiful (at least well paid jobs). I think it would be a mistake.

[aLucidMind]

I live in the tourist town where most people here irritate me and my family lives in a small town. My family has tried to get me to move up a few times over the last 6 years.

[Jetta]

Well it would be a way to get to know them better. It's really up to you, but get a job first, use their address or something (with their permission).

[aLucidMind]

The thing is that I already have a job and I can transfer to the store in that town. I guess I'm just worried they won't have the hours I need. Another problem is that I would also need to either sell or rent my house down here out as well.

[Snny]

My family also lives in a tourist, small town in PA. I know what you're going through... I was so glad to move out of there and into a city where there are more things to do.

 

Small towns aren't for everyone. My only beef with them is how fast gossip spreads and some of the people came accross as very judgmental (not all, but some who had influence). Most of the small town PA cops (not the state troopers because they're nicer) are jerks too, are best friends with the judge and deliberately go after people they don't know. If people don't like you... they talk about you and the word "magically" gets to your family LOL. My sister had a terrible time with it, but I was blessed to be living away at college when my parents moved there and didn't talk to anybody.

[Mesemene]

Take it a step at a time.

 

Research the job opportunity there, make sure they'd have the hours you'd need. If not, you'd have to look for another prospect before considering it.

 

If you find they do have the hours you'd need, or another viable position there, see about renting out your house through an agency (I'd never recommend doing it independently, too much of a pain running credit checks, making sure of good references, and being available to check in and do maintenance) on a short term lease, like 6 months.

 

See about finding something there that also has a short term lease available.

 

This way you can check it out - without just dumping all your ties to where you are currently. No sense jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Also make sure you're straight up with your company - that if it just isn't working for you, you can move back to your current job or an equivalent without repercussions.

[aLucidMind]

I'm actually on very good terms with management in my company and every company I've ever worked for. Every single manager I used to work with can be put as one of my work references and the managers I work with I know I can do the same. On top of the fact that, they seem to come to me for problems and ideas. The only reason why the other employees don't dislike me and peg me as a suck up is because they all know that any problems they have, I address (withholding their anonymity) and the problem always winds up fixed and that/those employee(s) that came to me wind up happier because something that management needed to do got done. Most of them seem a little hesitant to go to management as well.

 

@Snny I live in the tourist town, my family lives in a small factory town lol