I don't know if this is a problem that I have or not

[BlueAngle]

I don't feel the need to make friends and sometimes I feel uninterested to hang out with people. For example, I rather study than hang out with people, etc. Sometimes, I feel that it's a waste of time. I don't like to keep my friendships nor put in efforts to maintain it. That is why I lost some close friends. Whenever I get too close to somebody and they demanded a lot of time from me, then I started to withdraw and don't want to hang out with them. Having friends is not one of my priorities I guess. I don't know if this is the result of my upbringing and that I was not allowed to have a lot of friends when I was a child. I was always by myself and restricted from going out.

 

I feel neutral all the time and it's not that I am lonely. Maybe I will feel lonely or emotional when I am pmsing. Some people see me as an outgoing person but I don't see it. I don't bother to join in clubs/organizations to make friends. This is my last year in college and I am graduating soon. Sometimes if people don't ask me to hang out, then I don't even bother. I can let go a friendship easily.

 

Am I weird? Is there something wrong w/ me? Sometimes I feel that I don't care about people. I care a lot about my family though.

[Capricorn3]

I feel neutral all the time and it's not that I am lonely.

If you're not lonely or unhappy, then I don't see a problem. You just seem the type who doesn't need a lot of people in their life and there's nothing wrong with that (imo). Some people seem to need a lot of people around them to make them happy and others don't. I'm the type who doesn't need people - I am happy around them but equally happy with my own company too. I don't think you're weird.

[jaysmaury]

Not weird at all. I think I was the same way except with my core group of friends of like 3 or 4 people (the wolf pack). You're just introverted. If you're neutral about it then at least you're not depressed. One thing you should think about, though, is networking and how you will get a job after college. Finding a job and building a career is all about personal relationships. You need to develop them strategically in order to advance, and you will find some along the way that you truly enjoy.

[BlueAngle]

oh ok because in college, I see people going out and join in clubs/sorority/organizations to make friends. I feel that it's their highest priority besides education. But I am not motivated in that aspect and sometimes, I don't even want to go to parties. I don't think I am anti-social or anything. I find a few people that I enjoy having deep conversations w/ but in term of hanging out in a group, I am not exactly into that. I never got attached to any friends..but sadly, I got attached to guys that I dated. But no more of that...im going be single 4 a while.

[BlueAngle]

Not weird at all. I think I was the same way except with my core group of friends of like 3 or 4 people (the wolf pack). You're just introverted. If you're neutral about it then at least you're not depressed. One thing you should think about, though, is networking and how you will get a job after college. Finding a job and building a career is all about personal relationships. You need to develop them strategically in order to advance, and you will find some along the way that you truly enjoy.

 

I can network pretty well when I go to networking events. I am friendly to people and that is one of the things that my boss likes about me.

[BlueAngle]

I don't mind having more friends but I don't find many that I am interesting in.

[DN]

I don't think it is weird. If you are not unhappy then there is no need to change. You might feel differently at some point and can change then if you want to.