lhc1575 Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 I went on a "first date" with this guy from one of my classes (I'm in college) this past Friday. I say "date" because it wasn't a formal date, more of a hanging out, getting to know one another thing. We cooked dinner and watched a movie, and after the movie we talked for hours. Literally. I've never felt so comfortable around someone, and from what I could read from him I think he was into me, too--plus, when he walked me to my car afterwards, we kissed. Overall I'm thinking it was a successful first date. He texted me right after I left and said he had fun and that we should chill again soon. I'm really interested in him; it's hard for me to open up, but with him I felt like I had already known him for years. Being the old-fashioned girl that I am, though, I'm waiting for him to make the next move. I'll admit, that's pretty old-school, but I'm just not aggressive. He is pretty outgoing and is definitely a talker, so I feel like he would definitely contact me first anyway. My question is: Do guys subscribe to the Three Day Rule where they wait three days after the first date to talk again? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Seeker Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 Nope. If he's interested in you, then he will contact you the next day. If this is a college relationship. Two relationships of mine would contact me the next day and have plans the next weekend. If he isn't he will leave you hanging or plan the last minute. ;] Apparently, the guy I dated last week is doing the one week disappearing act. I deleted his number off my cell on Day 3. If he contacts me, then great. If not, that's great too. But I know my feelings won't' be the same. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueidealist24 Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 I think some guys do and some guys don't.. I've been called the next day but I have guy friends who will wait 3 days.. I wouldn't delete his number though if it's longer than 3 days. If he hasn't called after 5 I'd call him if you like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guynextdoor Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 According to the movie "Swingers" its actually the 5 day rule, but in real life those rules are just silly to say the least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Seeker Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 I think some guys do and some guys don't.. I've been called the next day but I have guy friends who will wait 3 days.. I wouldn't delete his number though if it's longer than 3 days. If he hasn't called after 5 I'd call him if you like. ;] Only if you don't have a strong habit of checking the phone constantly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blackhawks1287 Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 Don't be afraid to make a move. If you like him reach out someway, otherwise just relax and wait. Don't over think, and over analyze. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess123 Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 Say I give a guy my number. If he doesn't get in contact within two days then I would assume he isn't interested. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Seeker Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 Don't be afraid to make a move. If you like him reach out someway, otherwise just relax and wait. Don't over think, and over analyze. If at the beginning he was consistent contacting you, and after the first date you sent him a text and it takes him 2 days or a week to respond delete the number. ;] I hope that clarifies my point. If you like buddy buddy with him then keep the number and continue dating others. Who knows, you might have been a rebound. ;] If you are, get smart up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oGoody Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 You have nothing to lose. Some guys are idiots and follow stupid rules. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quantumst8 Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 I don't think it's wise to make rules in these matters, either for calling or for expectations of a call. Life throws too many variables. Just go with the flow and see if you're compatible in your levels of attention in the long run. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaysmaury Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 No. That is enough time for us to forget about a girl and begin to stray... You should call the next day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quantumst8 Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 That is enough time for us to forget about a girl and begin to stray She must not have made much of an impression in the first place, then. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose30 Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 From personal experience, when a guy is interested he calls the next day, usually if a guy takes a few days it might mean he is not THAT interested. Let us know if he calls or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FathomFear Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 Oh for goodness sake, it's 2011. Call if you're interested and don't if you're not. This should be true regardless of what genitals you have in you pants. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CMS Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 I subscribe to the "not the same day rule", 3 days rule is over used. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lhc1575 Posted September 26, 2011 Author Share Posted September 26, 2011 Thanks for all the feedback guys! The guy DID contact me last night...but only to ask about homework due in our class. We did spend a couple hours after that joking around but he didn't initiate any further conversation. Today in class (we have two classes back-to-back together) it wasn't super awkward...but he didn't seem comfortable talking, either. I'm trying not to over-analyze, but I don't know what it's about. There's a lot of different options running through my head right now. It could either be a) He doesn't want a relationship, b) He doesn't know what to do now, C) He's just not interested anymore. But I don't get it. He made the effort to hang out with me and text me right after I left saying that he had a good time and wanted to chill again soon. What the heck happened in the span of a couple of days?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quantumst8 Posted September 27, 2011 Share Posted September 27, 2011 Maybe he's like me and has no clue how to transition from friendship to something more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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