Fudgie Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 I'm looking for some people's thoughts/experiences on this. Not too sure what to think. I've had 2 previous partners, both small, about 3''. Not a problem. I use tampons a lot but never used a dildo, not into "excessive" fingering. I used to swim, ride horses, etc. When I lost my virginity, I never experienced any bleeding, only some pain. When my current boyfriend and I had sex for the first time, it HURT so much, in the first position. I felt like a "ripping". It hurt MORE than when I lost my virginity years ago. He is 6-7 inches. He was not being very "aggressive" at first and lubrication was not a problem at all. We had done a lot of foreplay, plus oral. Afterward, I got up to urinate and there was some blood. There was also a little blood in the bed sheet. I determined that the blood was coming from the inner part of my vagina, not "deep down" from the cervical area. I was not on my period. I didn't experience any sort of inflammation or uncomfy-ness, necessarily. Just some blood and that initial PAIN. We continued to have sex a LOT after that, after I cleaned up and it felt great. Still getting used to that "hugeness" but it was really enjoyable. Is it possible for one's hymen to rupture even AFTER they've had sex before? I'm looking online and can't find much info at all. My boyfriend was a virgin and doesn't have a clue either. I'm told "When you have sex for the first time, you get some pain, maybe bleeding, and your hymen breaks." So how come I have experienced this later? It's weird to think that by SOME people's definitions, I may have still been a "virgin" until he and I slept together. I felt "down there" and it does feel a bit different. Just a tad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UniqueSoul Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 its possible that someone was ruptured. ive never heard of a case like that. i didnt bleed the first time i had sex, so i probably broke mine when i was younger --probably with a tampon. i wouldnt be concerned since it didnt happen again and hasnt continued to happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheetarah Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 It might be more likely the skin between your anus and your vagina might have been the source of the bleeding. When I first slept with a man whose size I was not used to in the slightest, and I also hadn't had sex in quite some time, I bled a bit and felt like I was being torn in half initially. It wasn't actually until a few days later that I noted the area was a little sore, and examining it, looked sore as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted September 25, 2011 Author Share Posted September 25, 2011 Mintiya, Yeah I considered that possibility. I looked "down there" with a mirror but that area doesn't look sore. I wiped everything down to find the source of the blood and I remember wiping that area and there wasn't any blood. I also was able to have sex a lot later in that same day, not too much soreness. The blood seemed to come from inside the vagina. I "prodded" myself with a couple tampons to see WHERE the blood was coming from. It was not near the cervix or even that deep back. It was like just some inside. My boyfriend has good girth but nothing horrifically big. Just long. Very long. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted September 25, 2011 Author Share Posted September 25, 2011 OH, I forgot to add... My boyfriend said that he felt like there was something "tight" in there. Like, really tight to the point that it was troubling at first. And it was wet in there but just SO tight like he couldn't get in. After all this pain and the first time, he said that I was still really tight but that now, he could feel more "wetness" than he could before. So freaking strange. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cheetarah Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 link removed Any of these a possibility for you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted September 25, 2011 Author Share Posted September 25, 2011 Nope, I am clean. I also had a recent gyno check up for lots of things and those were fine....no polys, infections, inflammations, etc. He is "clean" too and was a virgin, no sexual things with any other girls but me. Couldn't have been a condom problem either because we didn't use one. (I am on BC) I also have only bled that one time. We continued to have sex that day and the day afterward without issue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honey Pumpkin Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 I suspect that your previous boyfriends didn't actually penetrate your hymen, if that makes sense - if they were 3 inches long, then maybe they didn't properly penetrate you? Your post seriously sounds like you've just had sex for the first time. I know that sounds weird, but makes sense to me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejigsup Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 My first partner was not that big, which I like. The second man I ever had sex with was much bigger and yes, it hurt a lot and I bled a lot. It happens. That was many years ago and no harm was done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted September 25, 2011 Author Share Posted September 25, 2011 I suspect that your previous boyfriends didn't actually penetrate your hymen, if that makes sense - if they were 3 inches long, then maybe they didn't properly penetrate you? Your post seriously sounds like you've just had sex for the first time. I know that sounds weird, but makes sense to me... When I had sex in the past, it wasn't that "rough". I mean, it was good, don't get me wrong but it wasn't that "Deep". My most current ex did not penetrate very much at all and we rarely had sex due to his health problems. The other ex, we had sex but not often because we were LD the ENTIRE relationship. We didn't meet up much at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nightshade Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 Is it possible for one's hymen to rupture even AFTER they've had sex before? I'm looking online and can't find much info at all. My boyfriend was a virgin and doesn't have a clue either. I'm told "When you have sex for the first time, you get some pain, maybe bleeding, and your hymen breaks." So how come I have experienced this later? Yes, it is possible. Some women have a hymen that is more elastic than others, and can stretch to accommodate a penis. In some cases, surgery or vaginal childbirth are the only options for fully breaking a hymen. I did read of one woman who went to her gynecologist for a check-up, and was told that her previous sexual partners must have been "very gentle with her". When the woman inquired why the gyno concluded this, the gynecologist told the woman that her hymen was still intact. Because you experienced pain the first time you ever had sex, but had no bleeding, it is likely your hymen merely stretched. Since your current boyfriend is larger than your previous partners, it is more likely that your hymen went beyond its stretching point and finally broke. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 Every hymen is different as well. I know a girl who has a double hymen and the doctors told her if she tried breaking it through sex, she could bleed to death, she had to have surgery to thin it out before she could have sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bunney Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 I think it could be that your hymen didn't fully break until now, I forgot the medical word for it but I had the same issue. It did not break fully because it was too thick, and because of that hymen "leftover" I was very tight down there. It was the reason that sex was quite hurtful for me for a long time, especially with guys who were on the bigger side. I had it removed through surgery. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greywolf Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 I wish I could find an article I read once that talks about this. A lot of what people say about hymens breaking are myths. The hymen is meant to stretch. I've never bled and I know that I did have my hymen. I still have my hymen, in fact. I think that this time your hymen couldn't stretch enough to accommodate him so it probably tore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 If you rarely had sex in your last relationship and don't penetrate when you masturbate, then your vaginal muscle tissue is likely fairly weak from lack of use. If you've never had anyone at this size either, then it's definitely going to hurt a bit and take some getting used to. Sounds pretty normal for not much previous sex and encountering a bigger size. It will get better though, as I'm sure you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted September 26, 2011 Author Share Posted September 26, 2011 Well, I did some penetration when I masturbated, but it was only a finger. I haven't used dildos ever. The tampons I use have always been the very small kind. It definitely got better right away, no complaints here! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sambuca Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 The same thing happened to me. My first boyfriend had an extremely small penis and obviously failed to break my hymen, because it didn't bleed until the first time I had sex with my second boyfriend. Now that it's over with it shouldn't happen again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Realitynut Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 WOW fudgie, I guess it's safe to conclude the trip is going well!!! me smile once I got past the blood!!! lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Betweenthebars Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 I'm also just going to throw out there, some men really are too big for females. Every vagina is different. And it can be excruciating pain - one boy I was with was 11" (I had no idea that was even possible) and I thought I was going to just die. So, if you still experience pain after having sex with him multiple times, experiment with different types of lube (silicone based, brand 'Jo' works wonders and doesn't get sticky) and different positions (if a penis is too big for you, doggy style isn't a good idea). Editing: just saw you said it's better now! Good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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