Ran into the ex gf...need advice

[chugginalong]

So we ran into each other at the lounge last night and she was being friendly. Last time we spoke I asked her to not ever contact me, and let's just go our on ways in life. I told her to not even check up on me through text because I would be fine. I know this can sound harsh, but I really loved her and at the time, every text was giving me hope. Fast forward to last night (about 6 or 7 months later) I see her at a lounge for a mutual friend's party and she kept coming over to ask me how I was. It was almost redundant because she kept wanting to know how I was and how everything in my life was. I didn't ignore her but I didn't go out of my way to see how she was doing. At one point I was seating down and watching other people dance, and she kinda pushed me over with her leg and sat on the corner of the seat next to me and continued asking me about my life and how I was doing. I thought to myself 'what the hell?' My question is why would she act this way, if someone had told me to cut all contact with them at the most I would only be cordial with the other person, not care to hear about their life. Have any ladies here ever done that with their ex bfs? I would have imagined that most people would simply keep it at a hi and bye.

[offplanet]

Silly girl was being thoughtless, having no idea that it was hurting you, or not caring too much.

[jolbell69]

Perhaps she was trying to reach out to you? Or, she was simply trying to get your attention to see what your reaction would be? I believe you disappointed her with your first reaction, which is why she kept coming back for more. It's hard to guess, but you did the best thing and kept it polite. I believe she will contact you again soon because she wants you to be available. If you don't want to communicate - tell her so and be straight and honest. Hopefully, she will take the hint. If not, be brutally honest.

[DN]

She was probably trying to demonstrate to your mutual friends (and her friends) how gracious and concerned she could be to her ex-boyfriend.

[MakeItCount]

Well, two options. She is maybe testing the waters. Or, she's just tryin to gain some control over the situation again. Noone likes being ignored. Keep up with no contact. IF she has something meaningful to say, she'll contact you.

[chugginalong]

Well, two options. She is maybe testing the waters. Or, she's just tryin to gain some control over the situation again. Noone likes being ignored. Keep up with no contact. IF she has something meaningful to say, she'll contact you.

 

Very true MakeItCount!

 

It seems really weird for someone to just be all warm after you tell them not to talk to them. At the end of the night, I was going around saying goodbye to everyone. When I got to my ex I gave her kind of a half ass hug, and I felt her trying to hang on just a tad longer. I pulled back looked at her and said, "It was nice seeing you again," and walked away. I wasn't rude to her at all.

 

Since being apart from my ex, I have put on A LOT of muscle, got a great job, went back to school to finish up, and I ride a sports bike (I was talking about it a lot during the relationship). She seemed pretty amazed about all of these things. I was kinda like it was whatever.

 

Anyone else? I really like to hear more people's opinions

[HPZOOM]

At least your ex said hi. I saw mine in passing the other day at school, she reused to even acknowledge I exist. Go figure. We dated for 4 years , even lived together for 2. We broke up June 2010. Complete NC since. I know she saw me, I was walking right to her. I think if I see her again, I'm just going to go run to her and give her a big hug and yell "HOW ARE YOU???" LOL. I guess she still harbors ill-feelings.