Can't make heads or tails out of this

[Bergk]

Hi.

 

I have a friend who I've been attracted to for a while. I'm certain she's aware of this, even though I've never explicitly told her.

 

Anyway, we caught up with eachother recently during a night out - planned but not a date. My nerves consumed me this evening; but eventually I asked if she was involved with anybody, as I was frustrated with being so apprehensive in the past and wanted to take her out properly. Also, I knew she would expect me to prompt this situation because I'm the man. Her answer was neither yes or no. She elaborated, explaining she was dating somebody recently but things weren't working out. I laid my cards on the table and despite her never being stand-offish afterwards (she mentioned doing something different the next time we meet), I still don't understand why she couldn't be more direct. Maybe she was and I cannot see it? I'm being pessimistic recently, so obviously I've considered she isn't interested and I embarrassed myself, but if the roles were reversed I would have been more succinct a long time ago to prevent this kind of situation.

 

I'd appreciate any thoughts on this and advice on what my next step would be. I've been tempted to apologize in a light-hearted way for putting her in an awkward position, but I'm thinking this could look weak in her eyes.

 

Thanks,

Berg.

[phresh]

I think you did great by telling her how you feel, I think it was the right time. Based on her response, I think she's interested! Or at least u have a good chance! She didn't say no so we can rule that out. She didn't say yes however because she mentioned things werent working out on the other end she's probably hinting and letting you know she's available. I didn't quite understand the maybe we should do something different next time if u could eloborate a bit more I could give you my opinion. What she may mean is a formal date... Hang in there you got this

[Bergk]

Thanks for your quick response. She briefly suggested lunch and I said that would be great - but this would be as friends I assume. I am still happy with that, and I let her know that it wouldn't effect my opinion that she was dating somebody else - although, at this point I was rather tipsy so I hope she understood my intentions. Time spent with her either way would be enjoyable. Should I wait for her to contact me? It hasn't been one sided so far. Thanks again!

[Bergk]

Anyone else? Sorry for being impatient!

[CMS]

Do not apologize for making things awkward, you simply went after what you wanted, there is no need to seek approval or validation from her for that.

 

Go to lunch, dont pay for her, just lean back, relax and have fun with each other.

[Bergk]

Thanks, cmswifty. I already thought whether I would pay and think you are right. I expect us to just see each other as friends and wont jump the gun. I'll just have to wait and see how this unfolds; I'm just cautious to make the right steps - not trusting my instinct recently but that should return to me.