findingmeandyou Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 Does anyone have experience with restraining orders they can share, because I need to get one against my brother. To briefly describe my brother, he's 26 with no job, barely passed high school, no college education, and has been doing and selling drugs for the last 10 years. He's also extremely abusive in every way - verbally, emotionally, and physically. He lives at home with my parents obviously, and they for some reason, haven't been able to stop enabling his behavior for the last 10 years. They have outright bought him a few nice cars, pay for his insurance, gas, money for cigarettes and to take out his girlfriend - god knows why she's still with him. Quite simply, they sometimes become tired of it, and when he doesn't get what he wants, he takes it. The last time, he stole my dad's car and a brand new flat screen TV, and sold it to buy drugs. He was soon after caught with heroin, and he has a court date in a few weeks. No one can say anything to him, because when you do, he flies off the handle, breaking things in my parents house, threatening to hurt people, etc. Last night, I experienced this again. Long story short, he was verbally abusing my mother because she didn't buy some facial wash he wanted from the store. After I heard a dish slam in the sink, I couldn't stand it anymore, so I went in the kitchen, and told him if he wanted the face wash to go buy it himself. He immediately escalated, yelling at the top of his lungs that he was going to kill me, kill me in my sleep, punch me in the face where I recently had surgery so he could "break every bone". He picked up a drying rack full of dishes and glasses, smashed it on the floor, and continued to yell like that, calling my girlfriend ugly and many other words that will not get through the filters on this site. I called the police, and when they showed up, my parents refused to let them in the house, saying nothing was wrong, defended him, as usual. I heard the TV turn on in the living room....my brother had no contact with the police. My parents actually asked ME to leave. I was staying there, because I had wedding planning events this weekend. One of the officers pulled me as ide and told me he know my brother's "rap sheet", been to the house before, and know my parents continuously refuse to do anything to stop this, and they can't do anything about it, because it is their house. Meanwhile, they constantly live in fear of him and are controlled by his outbursts. I told my parents yesterday he's banned from my wedding, which is just a month away. My brother even threatened to show up at the wedding, ge drunk, and do something to me while he was ranting like an idiot. Not to my surprise, my parents disagree with my decision to disallow him from attending the wedding, and one of them even said they might not come! Does anyone know much about getting a restraining order on someone? Yesterday, the police said I couldn't press any charges, because he never actually hit me. My dad jumped in the middle of us, and I also think he's in a way "smart" because he knows if anything happened, I could press charges and put him in jail for a few nights at least. I want the restraining orders, because I don't want him anywhere near any of the wedding venues. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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