fearless1986 Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 I have been best friends with my ex fiancé now for 11 years. We started dating 3 and a half years ago. He followed me around for a year until i broke it off with my ex. When i finally broke it off with my ex him and i hooked up. And we were solid together for the last 3 and a half years. So much that we got engaged and bought a house. He is the perfect guy, cares so much about me all up until last week. We bought a house together on sept 1st we moved in, 3 weeks later he moved out. We had been engaged for 3 months exactly. I don’t understand how he could do this to me. We were having an argument over having company over. We had our friends over and i had 2 shots of alcohol and he didn’t like that i had shots and was trying to tell me how i was inappropriate for having shots. Keep in mind the company we were having over have all drank excessively and thrown up infront of me, i have never in my life thrown up from drinking. Any ways it got heated and i said if i am so awful then y r u with me and i handed him back his engagement ring. I realized i made a mistake and apologized. He then wouldn’t give me the ring back. It escalated even further and he said he doesn’t know if he can be with me ne more. He needs to think about it bc we have been arguing a lot since we moved in (over petty things) and i gave him the ring back which is the worst thing you could ever do. So any ways he took a few days and still hadn’t made up his mind. He told me he still loved me and still wanted to marry me but there are so many factors and i hurt him so deep and betrayed him by giving him back the ring that he can never trust me again. After days of begging him, he wouldn’t reply to me at all, i would say tons of stuff and he just didn’t care. I would explain to him our past together and how much that should be worth to him, but he said he cant base his decision off of good memories only. So i finally had realized he had made up his mind and was just too chicken * * * * to say, so i said to him i am packing up my things and i am leaving for the night, if by the time i leave there is no ring on my finger then i have my answer. He let me walk out the door. That night when i left i went straight to his parents (he had wanted to talk to his parents about this without me and i felt i should be a part so they could hear both sides of the storey) . i promised his family i would take care of him, i clearly didn’t bc i ended up leaving him crying. So i explained what i had done to his parents and they said that was the worst thing ne one could do and didn’t care to hear me out that it was done out of anger and not out of true feelings. They didn’t care, so then my ex came as his mom called him and we all sat and talked and they all just pretty much shuned me out and said that i was in the wrong and i should never be forgiven for actig out of anger and i should have known the consequences prior to me doing it. The next day we had my ex come to my parents house and explain their side to my parents. My parents r the ones who made it possible for us to buy a house and they put a large amount of money into the house we had been living in for 3 weeks. So my parents felt they deserved to hear his side. He ended up showing up with his father. His father would not let him speak and the conversation went no where, he just listened to what his dad wanted. We then met later that night and discussed the idea of living in the house as friends and not as a couple and that way we don’t have to sell it. We said we would talk more later and deal with it the next day. (Friday). So on Friday aka yesterday, we met at mc donalds he brought both his mommy and daddy and i brought my dad only bc he directed my dad that he should be there. We met up and he said he was moving his stuff out today. He ended up moving his stuff out and wouldn’t even give me a second chance. My heart is broken and i know i will never find a perfect guy like this again. He loved everything about me in regards to my looks, the way i was in bed, the way my chest looks, he treated me like a princess (except when we would fight) he loved me whole heartedly. We shared everything, we had all of our accounts linked, we didn’t hide ne thing from ne one. Neither of us talked to ne ex’s i didn’t talk to other guys he didn’t talk to other girls (except like mutual friends) we had it all and i lost it all , just bc of 3 weeks of bickering and taking off my ring. None of this makes sense to me, did he even love me to begin with? I gave him my whole heart and soul and he just walked away from it all, all bc of 3 weeks. I just don’t get it, its killing me and i don’t know how to deal. Please help me!!! I honestly want to kill myself thats how i am feeling about this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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