Dating site pet-peeves?

[birdname]

One of mine is people stretching the truth about their body type. I have nothing against anyone with any particular body type, I find people of all shapes attractive.

But seriously...

I can see your profile pictures, and frankly, you're overweight. Sorry, but it's true. Why then list your body type as "athletic"? Now there is an option for "a few extra pounds" but I can see why you might not want to chose that and I won't hold it against you. I think "average" would be acceptable, or maybe just leaving the field blank. Why select "athletic"?

It's not a huge deal, it's just something that makes me scratch my head.

 

Another is shirtless bathroom mirror shots. Those turn me off. Don't know if some people enjoy these, but I'm not part of that group.

 

OK share yours, what do people do on dating sites that rubs you the wrong way?

[jaysmaury]

I can see that as being a pet-peeve. I am considering starting on some dating sites to see where that may lead. I hear Match is probably the best one? Any advice for a newbie to the internet dating scene?

[birdname]

I believe link removed isn't free, but I haven't tried it as it's not popular in my area. I wanted to use one that had the most locals on it.

[WhenWillILove]

I can see that as being a pet-peeve. I am considering starting on some dating sites to see where that may lead. I hear Match is probably the best one? Any advice for a newbie to the internet dating scene?

 

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[dolorosa]

I just closed my account on pof... so many crazy guys and the worst for me is the age, one guys told me after a few email exchanges that he made a mistake typing his age and he was not eally 37 but 47, I wonder if the photos were his and he looked very good for 47 and I can tell you hundreds of stories.... luckily I have met one very nice guy from there, who is normal and lovely and I talk to another one who is also normal. I am not loking for a relationship but avoid pof.... the site is free so you can guess what type of people come to use it.

[timlondon]

I just closed my account on pof... so many crazy guys and the worst for me is the age, one guys told me after a few email exchanges that he made a mistake typing his age and he was not eally 37 but 47, I wonder if the photos were his and he looked very good for 47 and I can tell you hundreds of stories.... luckily I have met one very nice guy from there, who is normal and lovely and I talk to another one who is also normal. I am not loking for a relationship but avoid pof.... the site is free so you can guess what type of people come to use it.

 

Well the free thing isn't entirely true, okcupid is free and seems to have quite a good demographic. I've also met someone I like on pof, bbut there are a lot of idiots there

[birdname]

this seems to be veering off topic...

[ApocalypseDreams]

I don't online date but can I post a pet peeve I have about people who online date?

[birdname]

You can post whatever you like, but if it's very different from the topic of the thread, best to start a new thread for it.

[dolorosa]

ok back to your question:

1. when you get an message and it says: u ok? u luk goegergorussssssssssss (can't spell, even if you look like Brad Pitt I will not email back)

2. Has to be the half naked photos.... yuck

3. the guys that "want" a long term relationship and in their first message they ask you what colour underwear you have on

 

I could go on forever

[birdname]

ok back to your question:

1. when you get an message and it says: u ok? u luk goegergorussssssssssss (can't spell, even if you look like Brad Pitt I will not email back)

2. Has to be the half naked photos.... yuck

3. the guys that "want" a long term relationship and in their first message they ask you what colour underwear you have on

 

I could go on forever

 

#1 gets me all the time! I won't even answer those messages.

[dolorosa]

Just remember one:

 

guy: relationship status: married

me: sorry I don't date married guys

guy: ohhh we are on a break, heading to divorce

me: block user

[ApocalypseDreams]

OK share yours, what do people do on dating sites that rubs you the wrong way?

 

Okay, well it seems fine that I post my pet peeve cos it applies.

 

There was another topic regarding people who embellishing the truth a little on their profiles. That people should be more truthful in their profiles. I think given that dating sites are pretty much advertising and it's a tough medium for people to really sell themselves and get their personality accross, perhaps it's a little harsh to expect that the person you end up dating is going to be the exact person you imagined in your profile? Most people are fairly uninteresting, not as attractive as they believe themselves to be, not as funny as they think they are and not as intelligent as they like to believe. If alot of people told the truth about themselves it would get them nowhere. It doesn't pay to be totally honest about who you are I don't think. It's like going for a job interview, you don't tell the interviewer all your bad qualities do you? Sometimes it's not even that people are lying either. People's often believe certains things about themselves but in reality these are separate from how others percieve them.

 

Anyway, I just think that with online dating, people should have less expectations. I've kinda got the feel that people are hoping to shortcut their dating by finding someone online. Like it's a shop window for their ideal partner and they have to do no work in actually finding that person.

 

I realise that is how the dating websites sell themselves but the reality is dating is going to be difficult whatever the medium and you're going to have to kiss alot of frogs to find the right person.

[Ms.Lady]

Honestly I find the whole online dating thing a waste of time. It's too many players on there who are just playing a game to see how many women they sleep with, the other men are crazy and obsessive, then there's the ones that you're just not into.

 

1.) Men who simply don't have photos on their page or a profile with little information and yet they expect me to respond.

 

2.) Cheesy one word lines like.. you're so beautiful,sexy, hey cutie... Those annoy me and I usually ignore them

 

3.) Coming on WAY too strong.. Sending me numerous messages and not giving me any breathing space.

 

4.) Men who insult me in a message after I didn't respond to their 1st message (Looks like I dodged a bullet anyway)

 

5.) Men who are half naked trying to show their muscles... Eh Cheesy..

 

6.) Creepy older men old enough to be my grandpa trying to come at me for sex... (Yuck)

[In the Dark]

ok back to your question:

1. when you get an message and it says: u ok? u luk goegergorussssssssssss (can't spell, even if you look like Brad Pitt I will not email back)

2. Has to be the half naked photos.... yuck

3. the guys that "want" a long term relationship and in their first message they ask you what colour underwear you have on

 

I could go on forever

 

Ha ha ha the guys taking photos of themselvesin the bathroom mirror and the ones who purposefully use bad spelling always make me laugh.

[Mesemene]

It's been a while, but those first convos where someone says "hey, I love that show/food/activity" and later the slip of "man, my ex used to insist on (insert something here, say pizza) on the weekends, and I just don't care for pizza... in spite of telling you last week that it was his favorite when you voiced a preference for it.

 

And on the same subject - guys who want to talk to a prospective GIRL about either exes, or conquests. Not in passing, but as THE topic of conversation. "Wow, you're even prettier than my ex, her hair was a bit curlier than yours and she was a little taller. Man, I really thought she was the one, and she started acting like a psycho when..." (insert an hour about the ex, or the 5th date last week.)

[twentiesgirl86]

When all I get is a "Hello" and nothing else type of message. About the body type thing, it actually annoys me when someone posts that they are average but they're actually over weight. Like you, I don't have anything against someone who is overweight, I've actually found I am more comfortable talking to overweight guys... but you are not average if you're overweight. You might as well select your actual body type if you're planning to meet someone, they are going to find out that you aren't athletic or average. What is he point in lying? People who get mad at me for not always messaging them back right away. I am not online 24/7 so therefore I cannot answer every one of your messages right away.

[mybunnyslipperz]

Oh where to begin on the pet peeves....?

 

1) someone who message you with some textese crap message, such as: "U R HAWT!" (Um, thank you, I think....?)

 

2) Someone who messages you (back) but doesn't give you any substance to reply to. Me: Hi! How are you today? Did you do anything fun and exciting this weekend? Him: Good. Went to the city and hung out with my friend. (Why even bother responding if you're not going to engage in actual two-way conversation? Nobody likes a one-sided conversation and asking all of the questions.)

 

3) Asking questions within the first few conversations that you would NEVER ask a stranger on the street. i.e. What kind of underwear are you wearing? Do you like (insert random kinky sexual exploit)? (Seriously? Some of the things asked would get you arrested if we were strangers on the street.)

 

4) Guys who get all obsessed with you, just because you've had a conversation with them online. Suddenly, as soon as you log on, there's an IM from them... every time.

 

5) Guys who just disappear off the face of the earth after a few seemingly good conversations or date(s).

 

6) The old skeevy guys who are old enough to be your dad.

 

7) Guys who are "separated" but get pissed when you tell them you don't cohort with married men. If you're separated, you're still technically married! I have morals and values. I don't date married men!

 

8 ) What's up with offering/wanting/suggesting giving me a massage? Or worse, when it's listed on your profile as one of your interests. Sure, if you're a massage therapist or in school to become one, that's understandable. If not, it's just skeevy!

 

9) Pictures of your car, motorcycle, gun or fresh hunting kill...

 

10) Using the term "hit me up"

 

11) Sending me your phone number in the first message and telling me to call or text.

 

12) When a guy keeps asking for your number and if we can text, when he isn't even capable of carrying on a conversation online. What are we really going to talk about via text, if we can't even converse in an IM on the site?

 

I could go on... and on... and on...

[Cheetarah]

1). Netspeak. Come ON.

 

2). By the third message, telling me about how their ex-girlfriend was a psycho expletive expletive expletive who broke their heart. Ok, go deal with your business and come back to online dating in a few months or years.

 

3). The messages that just say: "Sup" "Hey" "Ur cute" "Hi". I ignore them, but once in awhile I'll just throw back whatever they gave me, and then then have the nerve to say I'm not very talkative.

 

4). When you don't respond to an initial message because you're not interested, but they message you at least once a day giving status updates about their life and the steamed broccoli they had for dinner, the colon cleansing their dad had yesterday. I don't get it.

 

5). People who PM pics of their wangs. I don't want to see that.

 

6). When they state they're looking for something long-term, then tell me they're DTF tonight if I am too...

 

7). When they address their messages to me as "Yo babe" or the equivalent.

[thebluest]

1. I have 'curvy' as my body type and get this, guys who message me saying 'Hi, how are you, you don't look that curvy in your pics.' Seriously? I like that I'm an hourglass, it doesn't mean I'm overweight, and no, I'm not going to prove it to you.

 

2. Guys who don't get a joke. Enough said!

 

3. Guys who you reply to and they write back with stuff all about themselves and no opening for you to say something in reply!

 

4. I try to message most people back if they made an effort with their message, even if it's to say 'thanks so much, but i don't feel a connection'. There are ones who write back saying they appreciate the response - and then there are ones that write back abusively 'connection isn't everything, I'm probably the best you can get and you lost your chance by being a * * * * * ' or hound you to explain why you don't feel a connection...

[Blue Spiral]

1.) Men who simply don't have photos on their page or a profile with little information and yet they expect me to respond.

 

That's me! A guy's chances of getting a response from a girl are already incredibly slim; I've found that not having a pic doesn't really hurt your chances that much. Maybe you hear back from one out of every fifteen girls instead of one out of every twelve.

[igo]

1) Messaging back and forth several time and she never seems to want to set up a date!

 

2) Disappearing after a few good messages

 

3) I have a better shot with attractive women in the real world.

 

4) The "Duck Lips" smile. That's a turn off for sure.

 

5) Every Picture they are holding an alcoholic beverage in there hand.

[Stay_home]

Women who began their profile making demands:

 

"IF YOU ARE OVER 35, DON'T HAVE A JOB, UNDER 6'2, AND DON'T HAVE A PICTURE DO NOT EMAIL ME!!!"

[erikc76]

1. Photos that have 2+ girls in it, one is attractive, one is not, and it's hard to tell which girl she is

2. Old photos - I've seen some that have timestamps like 2001.. Really!?

3. Too many silly photos or photos of women with fake moustaches. Turn-off!

4. Photos that misrepresent the person (I don't have this haircut anymore, oh I've gained 100 lbs since this photo was taken - This actually happened to me with a girl I met!!!!)

5. Photos while holding beer cans (like igo said)

6. Duck Lips (like igo said)

 

I know some people are put-off by self-photos. These don't bother me, just put up some variety.. Put up photos that are accurate of you. If they make you look AMAZING and in real life doesn't match up, I imagine you're going to be rejected a lot.

[The_Seeker]

I used link removed for 6 months [so far only 3 months of it] I canceled the subscription in late August. I also canceled other dating sites.

 

It was a waste WASTE of energy. People don't read the profiles, and people are demanding to give them my number in 2 days or less. Heck even an hour.

 

I prefer meeting in person so I can decide whether I want to get to know them or not. That's why I'm going to be exploring a lot of fun areas. =] Yay to no more dating on websites.

 

Ha ha the "Duck Lips." And I agree with previous posters, the date on the photos are not even up-to-date.