Daisy11 Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Ugh, okay ENA'ers I'm counting on you to give me some input here. I recently started dating a new guy (one of my friends actually) about two months ago. We had been friends for awhile before dating but only saw each other maybe once every few months. The first month together, actually dating, was a lot of fun. It was summer time and we spent every weekend together out on his boat and I was starting to like him more and more each time we were together. Until recently when he has started acting distant. I asked him what the problem was and he said that he wasn't sure but that this relationships is different than any other that he's been in. He said that he's never had a girl that has a schedule as busy or busier than his own. He said he's used to his girls always calling him and complaining that he works too much and they don't get to see him enough. He's used to them texting him throughout the day and asking if they could see him that night. I guess I don't do this enough and he doesn't like it. He said that he feels like he's single when he's not around me. (What does that even mean?!) A little background on me. I have a career and love my work. I was recently promoted to a manager and some nights my work keeps me in the office late. This doesn't happen too often but yes, it does come up. I also own my own home and it's a decent size home, thus requiring a lot of maintenane and attention, which can be a lot for one person to keep up with alone. I am also involved in the local Kiwanis Club and that keeps me busy every so often with charity events and fundraisers. Oh, and my Mom has stage 4 breast cancer. Okay, so that being said. Due to a late night at work this past Tuesday, a Kiwanis event Wednesday and dinner with my Mom Thursday I haven't had much time to spend with my boyfriend this week. However, we have plans for tonight (Friday) in which I'm making him dinner at my house and we are going to have a bonfire and we have plans tomorrow night to go a concert with friends. Yes, I would like to see him more often but seeing him 2 - 3 times a week for now is plenty for me since we haven't even been truly dating all that long. And I'm sorry but I really enjoy the activities I'm involved in and my career and house so I do not want to change that. And I especially will NOT for any man stop seeing my Mom once or twice a week, especially with everything that is going on with her health. The type of girls he used to date lived in apartments, therefore little to no maintenance other than cleaning, they had "jobs" (one was a bartender for example) not "careers". And they weren't involved in community organizations.... not sure about their families health history. So my question is; Would men really rather have clingy, needy women? I always thought that the fact that I can support myself would be a bonus in a man's eyes. The fact that I do give him space and let him have his own life. I was engaged around this time two years ago and although that relationship didn't work out, the way our schedules meshed was great. I'm 27 and want to have a family and get married some day. I hope the life I've created for myself isn't going to prevent that. Link to comment
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