laura40 Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Recently I met a nice, kind, really attractive if I do say so myself, man. Today we went on a date and it was really lovely, went out for some food and a drink and the conversation flowed. We spent about 4 hours together. What is the "done thing" now? He's just dropped me off, I said I had a lovely time, we kissed and I'm now sat here telling you guys. Do I text him? Do I wait for him to text? We both mentioned we'd like to meet again and I said I'd pay for the food next time I am really hoping he'll text soon, he seemed keen. HELP ME PEOPLE!! Link to comment
snippot Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 I would not text right away. Let some anticipation build. You said you just got dropped off right? Give it a day or so, and I am sure you will hear from him. 4 hours is a nice date, and trust me, if I am not into someone I am out at and hour tops. Glad you found someone you really like....sounds positive to me. Link to comment
Tanzi Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Did either of you say anything about getting in touch. You could send him a thank you text saying that you had a lovely time and add that if he wants to do it again sometime just to let you know. That way you are letting him know that you willing to get together again but you are leaving the ball in his court. You could just wait a while of course, to see if he gets in touch. Link to comment
laura40 Posted September 23, 2011 Author Share Posted September 23, 2011 I would not text right away. Let some anticipation build. You said you just got dropped off right? Give it a day or so, and I am sure you will hear from him. 4 hours is a nice date, and trust me, if I am not into someone I am out at and hour tops. Glad you found someone you really like....sounds positive to me. Thanks, it has reassured me. At first I wasn't sure if he was interested or not, but he seemed it after an hour or so. He actually admitted that he thought I wasn't interested because I was so shy I couldn't speak much at first! I did say I was interested in him, had to put him straight lol. I shall wait for him to text first. Link to comment
laura40 Posted September 23, 2011 Author Share Posted September 23, 2011 Did either of you say anything about getting in touch. You could send him a thank you text saying that you had a lovely time and add that if he wants to do it again sometime just to let you know. That way you are letting him know that you willing to get together again but you are leaving the ball in his court. You could just wait a while of course, to see if he gets in touch. Hi no we didn't, I kinda got out of his car, said I had a lovely time and speak soon. Then shut the door lol! As I said in my previous post, I'm going to wait for him. Link to comment
snippot Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Sounds like a plan. Let him be the man and make the move. This is the fun part, so try not to overthink it. Link to comment
laura40 Posted September 23, 2011 Author Share Posted September 23, 2011 Sounds like a plan. Let him be the man and make the move. This is the fun part, so try not to overthink it. I feel like a teenager again! I keep checking my phone to see if he's text me! Not yet but I suppose it's far too early. He's still driving I think as he travelled 60 miles to meet me. Link to comment
Tanzi Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 I feel like a teenager again! I keep checking my phone to see if he's text me! Not yet but I suppose it's far too early. He's still driving I think as he travelled 60 miles to meet me. Lol ... relax! Link to comment
DN Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 I kinda got out of his car, said I had a lovely time and speak soonSo you said 'speak soon' and now you aren't going to. Link to comment
imsuperman Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 ^ The man's got a point. Please don't play the avoiding game. Link to comment
snippot Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 What would be the point in speaking 10 minutes after the date? I dont think anyone is suggeseting playing a game or ignoring..... just relax and let things unfold naturally. There is nothing that says if you dont text or talk 10 minutes after a date that it means anything. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 If he wants to see you again he will contact you. Unless you planned another specific time/place to meet just accept that you had a great time, have some fun memories and move on with your life - he will get in touch if he's interested in planning another date. If not, don't take it personally -it's just one date. I think it would be unnatural for you to text him right away unless you forgot to say thank you on the date. Would you do that normally with someone you just met- get in touch with the person right after you spent 4 hours with the person? If you said speak soon and you are sure he expects you to call him then call him soon -within the next few days. Link to comment
DN Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 You don't have to text him straight away but by saying 'speak soon' you give him the idea that you will contact him at some point 'soon'. Now people are saying wait until he contacts you. This sort of contradictory behaviour will not serve you. Link to comment
laura40 Posted September 23, 2011 Author Share Posted September 23, 2011 Ok, to everyone thinking I'm playing the avoiding game....I'm not, so don't jump to conclusions. I don't wish to start an argument. Saying "speak soon" is one of things that mean "we shall speak soon"...I was going to text him if he didn't first off anyway. Anyway this doesn't matter because he text me earlier on Link to comment
snippot Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Glad to hear that! I hope everything works out for you! Link to comment
imsuperman Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Ok, to everyone thinking I'm playing the avoiding game....I'm not, so don't jump to conclusions. I don't wish to start an argument. Saying "speak soon" is one of things that mean "we shall speak soon"...I was going to text him if he didn't first off anyway. Anyway this doesn't matter because he text me earlier on He texted you earlier? If so, good! What happened next? Link to comment
laura40 Posted September 27, 2011 Author Share Posted September 27, 2011 Hey guys, started a new thread for the update! Link to comment
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