Grounds for hanging out? Too often or...?

[Mike88]

I've been hanging out with this girl for a while, and last night she took it to a new level beyond sex. Like a more serious relationship. I'm a busy guy most of the time but when I have a free night, I want to ask her over. But I feel like I'm always the one who initiates hanging out, and I know that the push/pull "game" is important when building attraction for one another but when does it become time where it doesn't matter anymore? I don't want to keep her expecting that I'll text her to hang out. I want her to make the move and contact ME! But I don't want to make her bored with the same old hangout routine of watching movies together. (even though I know she enjoys it) So what I'm asking, since I'm still inexperienced with relationships is...how often should/do you get together? Is it normal to just wait for the weekend to go out to a party or what-not? Its hard for me to keep up with the pushing part. I want to give her all the space she needs.

 

Also, she's afraid of being in relationships a little bit because they havent turned out well for her in the past (bad guys). What she did last night was a bold move for her and a big step forward. I want to show her I want to be with her, but not in a way that seems clingy. I know its complicated!

[oldenoughtoknow]

Every relationship is different. What exactly did she do to take it to a new level? BF/GF or exclusive? Normally for me, once you become all that, the woman is very comfortable with suggesting things to do together and matching your schedules. In other words, it's not all up to you anymore - she gives you clues and cues as to what level she'd like to see you.

[Jetta]

The push pull game ends when you have the talk about being exclusive from what I remember. I have no clue what you mean when you say she took it to a new level beyond sex. Are you talking about intimacy?

[Day_Walker]

Why not just start with hanging out with her when youre free, and move from there. She will tell you if she wants to hang out or will at least give you hints. How much you two hang out is going to be very dependent on when both of you are free. Dont think about it too much.

[Mike88]

Thanks all!

[Mike88]

Update: Since I always feel like I'm the one initiating and putting in the effort to hangout. I'm going to wait until she decides to ask me instead. Is this a good idea/test to see how serious she is? Long story short, she has this guy friend that she likes to have a set routine with hanging out EVERY night, and she once claimed that she didn't have time to hangout with me because it was getting close to the time that they usually hangout. Should this be a red flag? I took this casually, because I know she doesn't have a lot of girl friends and enjoys talking girl-talk to her guy friends instead. Which is fine, but why would she put hanging out with him before me, even though she knows my time is limited because I'm busy a lot? Anyways, this might sound selfish to some of you, but it just feels weird to me, and I don't know how to handle it.