Is it me or him?

[ekboinc5106]

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. For about a year of the relationship, I have been at college which is two hours away. When we are together everything seems great and we always have fun together but when I cannot see him for over a couple weeks, things start to change. My boyfriend is not a very romantic person but here are some things he USED to do in the past.... Call me randomly just because he missed me, send me nice text messages, randomly say I love and miss you, etc. Now he does not say I love you unless I say it first, when he goes home to visit family and friends or he goes on some type of trip then he barley keeps in contact, and when I do call he tries to get off ASAP. Now right now I have a year left of school and I need to start looking for jobs so I need to know if he is going to take me with him when he gets out of the marines or not. Every time i mention this he tries to change the subject. From past experience, I know that this is a major sign that he is just leading me on. I have told him many times about the whole being distant part and most of the time he says sorry im a bad boyfriend and then acts like i never said anything. The other the day though I got fed up with it and mentioned breaking up if he did not stop basically ignoring me and he magically started getting a little better. Basically the problem is should I be pressuring him about taking the next step and moving to his hometown in a year or am I wrong for doing it?

[WindowTo]

I don't know if pressuring people is ever really helpful to anyone in these situations. If you have to pressure someone into doing something, it probably means they don't want to do it. Lawyers don't win cases by pressuring the jury, they do it by persuading them. In a relationship that means making it a good and worthwhile commitment! It seems that things have fizzled a bit. I think the key to avoiding more trouble then needs to be are 1. honest communication, if you are wondering about what he is thinking ask him, but pressuring him into making some decision isnt going to help. and 2. respark the thing!