confused112 Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 Thank you for reading this and for helping me, those of you who will... The ex: Me & #1 dated for almost 2 years. We lived together (first time we have ever done this) talked marriage, kids, shared all financials and had the most open relationship. We had a major fight because his parents let his ex live in their house for practically a year secretly and didn't tell me until i found out Christmas morning. It was too much to handle and we split (long story short). We had a great sexual relationship, we were very mature, I really felt that we had a great connection and just got a long great..except his parents...who hate me for no reason other than them preferring the 6month ex! Anyways we have been trying to work thru things for 6months, we recently went on a trip and it was the best, but i was really distant with the whole sexual relationship he wanted. Guy #2: I had started seeing someone shortly after me and #1 split, it was more rebound than anything, but during the time we seen eachother-i fell in love with him and we got an apt together-we are both head over heels (i'm 20), however...he is 16 years older than me and makes me feel comfort and secure, but we have the best relationship!! top to bottom!! This guy is absolutely the best, we have been seeing each other for 6mos now and he is super in love, as am I.... But there is one issue... THE ISSUE: Neither of them know about each other. Guy#1 and myself have been in contact and trying to work things out because i miss him-but i love both of them, honestly. So i am living with guy 2 but txting and secretly seeing guy 1. Well guy 1 tried to kill himself last night for IDK what reason...he has no idea what's going on, and I don't speak to anyone about this so no way he would've found out..unless he came by my apt and seen me with guy 2.......I feel horrible basically. Anyways, he tried to kill himself, i found out because I didn't hear from him and i began to worry and call around and ask his boss, parents, and called hospitals...because the last text he sent was 'Goodnight, i love you'. Anywho, I found him at the ER...i went to the hospital and his mother didn't let me see him,wouldn't tell me conditions or what exactly happened or anyhting! I don't even know for sure when it happened-she said "he will tell you when he's ready". So it broke my heart. (we [his mother and i] repaired our relationship before this happened so i don't know why all of a sudden she hates me? This is why i think it was attempted suicide because of me) Well, he was released last night or this morning because i called and he's not there. He hasn't called me, and this guy is so in love with me and i am in love with him, but i met someone new (Guy #2) and don't know what to do. I am texting him-but i am not sure if his parents are not letting me talk to him (he's 25-lives with them since the break up) or if they took his phone and cut him off from the world...or if he doesn't want to talk to me? I am just not sure!!! He hasn't said anything to me, not one word and no one will speak to me...his parents know we were trying to work things out so I am confused. I wanted to break up with Guy #2 last night and be there for Guy #1 officially and just chose Guy #1 once and for all.. but every time i see guy#2 I just want to be with him, laugh with him, kiss him, hug him...I cannot break up with him...what if Guy#1 doesn't want me back IF he found out and then I am out of 2 great guys! I know I made a huge mistake, I just don't know where to start to correct it. Its a burden I carry and I no longer want it! I am soooo worried about Guy #1 and constantly find myself missing him and what we had and just wanting him to come see me or call me or something. After he recoups i want him to come see me, but he can't if guy #2 is here...... Bottom line, I do not know who to chose or what to do....??? Please help me, I haven't asked anyone about this for my own reasons and its eating me alive!! Should I come clean to everyone? what if that guy hurts himself again because I tell him EVERYTHING?? PLEASE ADVISE!!! Link to comment
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