denize30 Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 My boyfriend and I have a lovely relationship. We met an year ago and since then we became inseparable. We madly love eachother ...you know, like it is at every first of a relationship...a good one. Problem is , before we met he had broken up with his gf of 6 years..they lived together, they did everything together. He says they had a good friendship and that , as far as he is concerned , he had no sexual attraction towards her ,and even worse, he says he never loved her the way lovers do. They were just good buddies ,sharing a life and a flat together .... he said that in the past 2 years of relationship they haven't even had sex anymore. I found that hard to believe.... So i had to check.. I found out that actually, during the past two years , their relationship wasn't as bad as he described and that he wasnt as miserable as he said to me that he was with her and that they did have sex , very rarely, and they went on holidays together all over the world etc etc etc..... That was a shock for me ,because i believed all his stories and now i look at old txt messages between him and his ex and I see a whole different story.. He is a wonderful person , never cheated and i trust him and love him to bits. I dont know why he lied? I am confused.... I know the past is the past and we all have one, it is not what bothers me... I only want to know why he said the things he said about his ex and their miserable relationship ? he keeps telling me he never loved her THAT way and it was all a very good friendship and that he wasnt happy with her ..... text messages say things like - i love you, calling eachother pet names and so on and so forth....just the usual things people say and do when they love eachother. I am not crazy ... i am just very confused, cos that just dropped like a bomb. you might say i make a big deal out of nothing and the past is the past.maybe it is so, what bothers me is why did he make up stories ? was it because he thought it would make me feel better,or more confident about this new relationship ? ......please help with answers, opinions ... anything you can. thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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