GF, EX, BFFs?

[easytiger]

My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now. It's been a wonderful year, no major problems, we get along well, treat each other intamately and as best friends. Honestly the best relationship I have ever been in. But now, I feel a complicated issue has arisen. My EX, was one the coldest people I have ever come accross in all of my days. She cheated on me from day one. Literally. Had a very self-centered way about handling everything, and made a general fool out of me. A couple months after our break-up, I actually attempted to bury the hatchet and make things cool between us again. She accused me of flirting with her, and said horrible things about me behind my back. I mean BAD and terribly false. So naturally, I stopped trying to be nice, and decided to just stay away from her. But now, she's and my gf have basically become bestfriends. My gf knows the whole story about my ex, and does not care apparently. I've stomached this for awhile, but now it's cutting into our time. Because of how late I work I only usually see my lady part of Friday, Saturday, and most of Sunday. This coming friday, my gf is going to go to the movies with my ex and my exes current boytoy. I'm at my wits end here. Why doesn't she seem to care about how this makes me feel?

[DN]

I have no idea why she is doing this but she is probably very much like your ex underneath. I would not tolerate her doing that and would dump her - it's extremely unsupportive and basically disrespectful.

[lanaa]

why cant she hang out with your ex? they maybe knew eacother since before

[DN]

why cant she hang out with your ex? they maybe knew eacother since before

Say you have a boyfriend and he knows that your ex cheated on you, treated you badly and then lied about you. How would you feel if he suddenly started hanging out with this guy as friends?

[Princess123]

That is a little odd but friendships and relationships are different. She is hanging out with this girl not dating her. Although I do think its a little disrespectful.

[DN]

It's about loyalty to your partner.

[easytiger]

Yes, thank you DN. Although I'm going to try and salvage the relationship, your advice has empowered me to confront her with this. I have been very paitent and understanding throughout our relationship, and I deserve a little bit more respect than this. I will keep you guys posted on the outcome.

[DN]

Good luck - I hope it works out for you. Remember this is not so much about this one incident but more about how she views what being in a relationship means.