Cynder Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 So, as the title says, I know a lot of people here have read a lot of my threads about this one guy I've been friends with for ten years. Friends ten years, lovers for a while back in 03, and then again for the last few months. He started pushing me away when he started basically using my facebook as his own personal meat market. What really flipped the switch for me though, was when he messaged one of my female friends on facebook who he hasn't even met yet and offered to give her a ride somewhere three hours away to pick her boyfriend up from prison. This is all so complicated... I'm just giving the shortest version of the story possible. I know a lot of people have followed my threads about this guy and don't really need the back story, but I'm trying to include it for those who haven't followed. A few days after I got back from Europe I spent an evening with him and his kids. And when he was giving me a ride home he made a joke about how he was going to try to grope me while he was driving. (this kind of humor is normal for him, no big deal there.) And I just laughed it off. He said "On a more serious note, I don't think you want me to do any of that anymore." And I was thinking "Wow, you finally figured it out huh." But I said "Well, you're right, I really don't." He asked me why... I gave him all my reasons. Of course he had nothing but excuses. He said he was only joking when he was hitting on so many of my friends. He said he only did it out in the open so he could be open and honest with me about it. Etc, etc etc. He even tried telling me he didn't know it bothered me. I pointed out that every time I tried telling him it bothered me, I was told to stop acting jealous and he would immediately end the conversation after that. I supposed I could go into all his excuses and all my rebuttles... But it seems pointless as of now. A lot of it is so dense that it's frustrating for me to even try to wrap my head around it. But in the end we decided we will always have our friendship. We've been friends so long I don't think we will even not be friends. I would like to think I let him down easy... but I got the feeling he was pretty upset. This was Thursday night and he didn't talk to me until today. I didn't contact him either. But today I got a text from him apologizing for not texting. I told him I'm looking at apartments and looking for another job. We talked about that, it was a trivial conversation. So, that's what happened... Link to comment
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