absynthminded Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Soooo here's my situation. I met this girl from a dating website back in May. We really hit it off. Not only did we have a lot of similar interests, but we also came from similar backgrounds dating wise. We had an AMAZING first date (made out in the rain for hours), and the times we had after that were just some of the best I've ever had. When we met, we had both been out of a 7 year relationships for 2 years. Odd how timing works out sometimes. We had discussed our past relationships and we both came to the conclusion that we were both completely over them. Ha, wishful thinking. So about 3 - 4 weeks into it, we run into her ex at a local show. At first we keep our distance but as the night goes on and we drink more, she gets closer and closer to him to the point that she is away from me and probably 10 feet from him. I confront her about it and she just said she wanted to get closer to the stage. This is the beginning of the end. We had great times after that, but there was always a suspicion in the back of my mind. The more I learned about her, the more I learned he is not out of her life and she has not moved on. A lot of other things happened in between then and now, but I won't bore you with the details (unless you want to know), but as it stands right now, she doesn't want to be in a relationship because she's not sure what's happening with them. She's not sure what she wants with us either, but it's basically boiled down to just friends (maybe/hopefully benefits? - she's not sure because she doesn't want to hurt me, but she's still attracted to me apparently). I'm so torn over this. I don't want her out of my life, but I want to be more then friends. I want the good times back. I WANT her back. What do I do? What's the fool proof way in making this happen (if there is). Do I stick around? They were in a 7 year relationship and it's been 2 years, why would it work now? Ugh. She swears it's not me and that I'm an awesome person (yea right). I'm so frustrated over this and I need advice from people other then my usual friends. Thanks for reading and I appreciate any advice anyone can give me. Link to comment
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