dazee Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 My ex and I were in a relatively short relationship (1 year). We broke up about a month ago because of a job offer I got out of state. I told him as soon as I found out, because I knew what it meant for our relationship. We decided to breakup because LDR just isn’t for us. I would say the breakup was mutual. There wasn’t any arguing or lack of love. I miss him lots, and I’m sure he does too. He was very supportive and helpful in the transition to move and we thought it’d be a good idea to just not have each other in our lives to “heal” once I was away. This was an idea mostly brought up by me because I know what a pain it is to be away from each other and being like, “I miss you”, etc. but there isn’t much you can do. He said he understood where I was coming from and we haven’t been in contact since I left. But today he texts me and says he just wanted to know how I’m doing, and hopes we don’t lose touch, that he still wants to be friends but that if I don’t, “it’s okay”. The “it’s okay” had this tone of “Let me drown if you want, I’ll be fine”. So I call him and I tell him that I think it’s better we don’t keep in touch so soon, but that maybe in the future, it might happen. So he kind of pauses, sighs and says, “Okay, well… you know I’ll always be here.” Now, I don’t know if he’s doing this because of lingering hope for us getting back together some day (which I know won’t happen) or just because he genuinely wants to be friends. Do you think he wants to be friends for the wrong reasons? Should I just enforce the NC and leave it at that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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