carrie8484 Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Hi After a bad break up I feel like I would like to start dating again. Please do not shoot me down for sounding shallow but looks and personality are equally important for me. All my exes have been very attractive and I do have a certain 'type'. I met my ex online and thought it was pretty rare to meet such a good looking, down to earth guy on a dating site, and I was right! I have joined numerous sites in the past couple of months and have literally not seen one attractive guy on there, and I am logging in several hours a day. And when I say nobody attractive, I mean well and truly, the standard on those sites at the moment is shocking..sorry again for being so blunt. So today after one last search through all the sites I am a member of, I have decided it looks like I aint gonna find anyone I am attracted to online! I have considered looking on facebook but I guess that is going to be even harder. I have no friends who know single male friends and I work in a team of just 3 so my opportunities are limited. Been away from the socialising scene for a while since the break up I know I need to force myself to go out more... So my question is, baring in mind I live in England UK, where do the mid twenties, single, attractive men tend to hang out?? or is there a magical dating site I am missing out on? thanks carrie Link to comment
FathomFear Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Why not check out some football games, perhaps? Or find out which local pubs cater to the younger crowd? Link to comment
lanaa Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 look at sport games,,,usually guys that play fotball or some kind of sport are very attractive Link to comment
lanaa Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 there was one dating site for only beautiful people,but before you become a member other memebers have to vote..if you are beautiful enough haha so you could try lol Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 yeah - go where the men are! sports games, golf courses, law libraries, gun ranges, etc... Link to comment
MrZod2012 Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Sorry for a positive criticis here, but I have a good friend of mine who talks exactly like you. The result is that it took eight years of online dating to find a man. and she settled for a very unattractive guy and very different personallity than what she wanted . And she tells me she is unhappy with. She could not find an attractive guy herself in real life because she is not attractive enough herself. So if you are equally attractive, please go out there today in the gym, dinners for singles, etc and snag your guy soon. I can tell you I think I am considered attractive enough (based on what others tell me) and many times I find women in the airport, coffee places, etc. I use the online dating thing due to long distance relationship search. Link to comment
lanaa Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 So if you are equally attractive, please go out there today in the gym, dinners for singles, etc and snag your guy soon. Its very usual to see very attractive guys with girls that look not near enough as attractive Link to comment
MrZod2012 Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Only in your world, maybe. Keep on dreaming. In the world I live that is totally the opposite. Why should man who has biological advantage (on average I can easily find woman 10 years younger and even younger if sometimes) go out with unattractive woman. Have a clue. That is why this person I know was chasing his dream model. She needed someone like me to tell her that hard truth then finally she settled with someone. But that is not the only issue. I think for someone saying you browse several online dating sites for months and you cannot find attractive men... well that is kind of hard. Perhaps your definition of attractive it is something very unique. Definition of attractive can be subjective sometimes. This friend I am talking about turned out to be attracted by men most women would be considered distasteful (not saying you are like her). But just expressing people can be so different... Its very usual to see very attractive guys with girls that look not near enough as attractive Link to comment
lanaa Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 thats a different discussion i guess Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 Its very usual to see very attractive guys with girls that look not near enough as attractive eh - I've seen it both ways - attractive guys with attractive women, and attractive guys with ok looking woimen. I think if you aspire to be with an attractive man, you should try as hard to be as attractive as you can yourself (ie, go to the gym, wear nice clothes, stay in shape, do your hair/makeup). Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 PS - one of my male cousins tells me "ugly women try harder in bed." maybe that's why you see attractive men with unattractive women?? Link to comment
blackhawks1287 Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 PS - one of my male cousins tells me "ugly women try harder in bed." maybe that's why you see attractive men with unattractive women?? Well the truth of the matter is, and I am sure some men can agree... The more attractive the more maintenance...especially in the early years. There is also a sense of entitlement with more attractive women, that really in truth...is not worth the time to keep them in check, it just isn't worth it IMO. This goes both ways, I am not woman bashing...but it is true, and yes it is safe to assume that less attractive men and women would try harder to compensate. BUT...you shouldn't be going online to find that type of guy you seek...because you really won't unless his esteem is too low or he is looking to get laid. You need to be ore proactive in finding these men, instead of mouse clicking through them all. Link to comment
superfox Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 PS - one of my male cousins tells me "ugly women try harder in bed." maybe that's why you see attractive men with unattractive women?? Haha! I was informed by my bf this morning that fat women can cook! He was joking and isn't shallow but merely commenting on another one of my failed lasagnes! OP, try link removed , it's a dating site, i was reading about it this weekend, you upload a photo and the members judge whether you are beautiful enough to join them. I went out with a model looking guy when i was younger, I would hate meeting him in a certain bar as there was a massive corridor of mirrors - it would take him forever... Link to comment
timlondon Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 Haha! I was informed by my bf this morning that fat women can cook! He was joking and isn't shallow but merely commenting on another one of my failed lasagnes! OP, try link removed , it's a dating site, i was reading about it this weekend, you upload a photo and the members judge whether you are beautiful enough to join them. I went out with a model looking guy when i was younger, I would hate meeting him in a certain bar as there was a massive corridor of mirrors - it would take him forever... beautifulpeople is a terrible site which people join for sweet sweet internet validation and which doesn't really function as a dating site. (yes I was accepted, thanks ) Link to comment
superfox Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 beautifulpeople is a terrible site which people join for sweet sweet internet validation and which doesn't really function as a dating site. (yes I was accepted, thanks ) Internet validation! Haha! yep, I can imagine it'd be a borefest But i'm sure i would be accepted if i tried Hahahahaha! Link to comment
capuccino83 Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 Going back on topic... OP, give "ugly" people a chance.. you might be pleasantly suprised. Many people look really bad in pictures but pretty decent in real life. Most of the guys I met online, who I did not think were going to be cute, actually ended up looking pretty decent. Link to comment
jonr87 Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 In Manchester? Try Chorlton....bars, coffee shops, restaurants and festivals round there are wicked and full of the 'creative' class...yuppies and mature students. are you on twitter? if so search 'chorlton' and see what is trending, there's usually loads of events going on down that way. Try the manchester confidential website as well to see what other events are going on, then just get to 'em and get a chattin. Bet you meet someone you like You live the cultural capital of the UK... embrace it! Link to comment
CMS Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 PS - one of my male cousins tells me "ugly women try harder in bed." maybe that's why you see attractive men with unattractive women?? I have dated many what I count attractive women, most of them are high maintenance, clingy, superficial and lack of personality, those gets old fast. A lot of more average looking girls are smarter, funnier and better put-together and hence better as long term prospects Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 I have dated many what I count attractive women, most of them are high maintenance, clingy, superficial and lack of personality, those gets old fast. A lot of more average looking girls are smarter, funnier and better put-together and hence better as long term prospects haha, maybe true, who knows? Now that I think of it, he said, "Ugly women try harder." I think he meant in general. Link to comment
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