Unwanted Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Soooooo I was in a long-term-long-distance relationship for 4 years...and been broken up for 4 months. Got over really fast. No more tears. Blah blah (see old posts). Back into the dating game...AND IT'S REALLLLLLLLLLLLLY HARD. I feel like I'm having to learn how to socialise again. It's weird. I get all shy and conscious and over-think too much and become all hesitant and hide in my little cocoon. Anyway, I've dated a couple of guys. And it's been really fun. I'm learning what I like and what I don't like. I'm learning to be myself and not be too nervous. I'm learning to be around guys and NOT feel guilty (like I'm cheating or something). But for some reason, I keep comparing them to my dead-beat, loser of an ex. The ex was a 'musician' who was unemployed, sat around smoking pot, lazy, living beyond his means, living at home relying on parents financially (and me). But I'm realising that there are far more worse guys out there!! At least my ex was a gentleman and was actually kind, caring and unselfish (in most things). Maybe I've just had bad luck, and the guys I've been dating are just losers. But at the end of a date (or a couple of dates) I just keep thinking: "Well, he's no [insert ex's name]...that guy was far worse!" How do I stop seeing my ex on a pedestal? I keep going back to my list of all the crap things I hated about my ex, but it seems the guys I've been dating have FAR MORE WORSE qualities. Then after dates I just feel like crap and have to keep reminding myself that I was in a toxic relationship and I'm better off without the ex. But then I keep thinking "Ohhh at least the ex was this-that-etc" Link to comment
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