Doing Good and BAM! Someone negative enters the picture

[heaven_apart]

I used to not be as solitary as I am now, but the bf and I are in an LDR so I've had to find more creative ways to occupy my time. People who I was close with way back in the day have been very negative in recent years. I find myself distancing from them completely...

 

Sometimes their horrible moods will make me close myself off completely...like I don't even want to talk to them anymore. I have been taking the time to enjoy nature recently and swim. Just taking things in stride and all they want to do is gossip or say cruel things about other people. I have tried asking them, "Why are you saying that about so and so?" and the retorts I get turn into rhetorical questions: Why are you SO sensitive? Why do you care?

 

I'm not really the one bringing these things up, they are! How can you be happy with your own life if you are constantly comparing yourself to other people and whining about them? Why do you have to see her teeniest tiniest imperfection and go after it like a rabid dog...

 

I'm a woman in my 20's and this has been getting with with friends and besties. But I feel like I'm acting like they are less and less. I want to say it's maturity, but I'm not sure. Maybe I don't need to talk about other people to be happy?

 

Just wanna enjoy my life if I can :star:

[Jetta]

Woman are catty, which is why I have always limited my friendships with them. I have 2 female friends, then relatives, and male friends. It's just the way of the world. Develop other relationships, male friends, cousins, siblings, etc. Because you always need friends, but you don't need their negativity.

[badcat3]

Hi OP, I'm going through a similar experience-- distancing myself from old friends. They too are high drama and constantly gossiping about other people. Perhaps related, they are still very much into the bar scene while I have outgrown it. I figure I would rather have a few close, reliable friends who I enjoy spending time with. I am also in a long distance relationship and quite solitary so I can relate completely. What kind of things do you do in your spare time?