Would you be bothered by this?

[jumbled]

Dating this guy for 1 month, have been friends for 3 years, and acquaintances for 8 years. I had a person giving me a quote to work on my house come over on Friday. When the guy left, I sent him a text saying that it went a lot faster than I expected. He didn't reply. Saturday around 3, I text him asking what he was up to. He replied at 5 saying, at neighbors. I felt like his response was short and not wanting to text, so I haven't contacted him since. About 45 minutes ago, he texted me asking how much the quote was. It bothers me that it is now Sunday and he's responding to my text from Friday. There are times he takes a couple hours to reply back. I usually reply back to him right when I see he's texted me, but I haven't responded yet. Now, he just sent a pic of me from the night he first kissed me (it's almost like he can sense I'm bothered). Am I being bothered by nothing? I've noticed him not talking to me for a while before, but it's usually not an entire weekend. I've been played with a lot in the past by guys I've dated and I just don't know if I'm letting my insecurities get the best of me. If he would have texted me with a hi, how was your weekend or something and then asked about the quote, I don't think it would have gotten under my skin as much. What do you think?

[DN]

There is no rule that says he has to text back on your schedule.

[Furtive]

I'm like you, and I'm a little anal-retentive about replying asap to people, and I really dislike when people take forever to respond or ignore something. But, I think DN is right, it just depends on the person. Some people aren't that way.

[Miss Firecracker]

Maybe he is under a lot of stress. I am ignoring people today and this week in general because I am under a lot of pressure and just can't chit-chat with people. Someone asked me to call today and I didn't. And I have yet to return a call from a girl from about three days ago. Sometimes you just have to have a break from reality.

[Ms Darcy]

I hate texting. I prefer the phone. Maybe try calling next time ... saying things directly gets you an immediate response.

[annie24]

I see a distinction between texts that require an immediate response vs. those that are just chatting about the day's events. ie, if you texted him asking what is so-and-so's phone number, and he took 2 days to respond, i'd say that's rude. if you're just texting about whatever - the quote, that's not a big deal.

 

I think it's more important how he is acting on dates, if you are having regular dates, etc...

[jumbled]

I see a distinction between texts that require an immediate response vs. those that are just chatting about the day's events. ie, if you texted him asking what is so-and-so's phone number, and he took 2 days to respond, i'd say that's rude. if you're just texting about whatever - the quote, that's not a big deal.

 

I think it's more important how he is acting on dates, if you are having regular dates, etc...

 

We've seen each other 3-4 times per week for the past month. I'm perfectly comfortable and have no worries when we are together. It's when he doesn't talk for a day or two, then I wonder what's going on. He usually talks to me daily, except on the few occasions he doesn't.