Shudder Posted September 17, 2011 Share Posted September 17, 2011 Recently I've been spending a lot of time with a girl I met through a friend. It started off as friends not really expecting much, but it has grown over time to both of us caring about each other. She has spent a couple nights over but we haven't had sex yet. My question isn't so much whether she likes me, but the problem is that I'm moving halfway around the world to start a new chapter of my life, and she knows about it. I had planned this quite early on as i was dissatisfied with my social life, dating life and that, i believe, was the main reason for my decision to move. But this girl comes along at the worst possible time, so it went from having nothing to lose to possibly having something to lose. I know the answer is within myself, but is it crazy to cancel my move because i've started seeing someone I see potential in? also has anyone been in a similar situation? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
banal Posted September 17, 2011 Share Posted September 17, 2011 It's crazy. It's crazy because she's not what you think she is. You hardly know her, and if even if you do know her, and you fall in love with her, there's no guarantee that she'll return the favor, or you two will go anywhere. A thousand things can go wrong. Look, I'm one of the biggest romantics you'll find on this board, and I've had to admit reluctantly, through experience, that making decisions with your 'heart' almost always end badly. Other people just aren't reliable. Neither are our feelings, for that matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedDress Posted September 17, 2011 Share Posted September 17, 2011 When are you moving? Do you have something to move to? Do you have a job lined up? I think the details matter a lot. I have a friend, btw, who met a girl 6 months before he planned to move to England. She moved with him. They've been together 10 years now... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shudder Posted September 17, 2011 Author Share Posted September 17, 2011 Im moving to asia. and no i dont have a job lined up. once i land there i'll be looking for one Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedDress Posted September 17, 2011 Share Posted September 17, 2011 Im moving to asia. and no i dont have a job lined up. once i land there i'll be looking for one Those aren't very concrete plans. Did you already quit your job and give up your apartment? Why don't you use the time to take an ESL teaching course. Then you'll be qualified and set up when you get there. You can also pursue the relationship in the meantime. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dali Posted September 17, 2011 Share Posted September 17, 2011 Ummmmmm where you from and what country are from? I think bigger issue is that your going to Asia with out a job arranged. What country BTW? If it's LAOS ha ha, have fun eating 60 cents of rice per day and selling opium to tourists for money. ESL is even worse pay, better of selling drugs to tourists Asia is cheap but wages are * * * * , I hope your very skilled in what you do for work. Never wait or stay for some one, you will always regret it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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