calligirl Posted September 17, 2011 Share Posted September 17, 2011 I was in a relationship with a guy that i have known for some time, 10+ years. We had started talking about 2 years ago and then started dating 6 months later. After dating from 4 weeks to about 6 months then he would become distance every single time. And each time i would ask what was wrong and if he wanted to stop seeing each other and he would say no. So then a month or two would pass and then we would start back in the relationship again. i would tell him no and refuse to see him again and then he would charm his way back in as a friend and then after spending time together would be a couple again. keep in mind it wasnt for sex, we didnt have much of a sex life due to other reasons, but every time he would drift and we would get back together the relationship would last longer. the last time i broke up with him and it was 3 months before he contacted me again. prior to the break up i had told him that i wanted more than what he was willing to give me so i didnt see a point in continuing because this wasnt what i wanted. this last time we broke up, i again asked if he wanted to break up and he said no and that he would call me. i took it as we broke up because a boyfriend doesnt stop talking to his girlfriend and they still be dating. and certain family members on his side got involved and drama started. he was pretty upset with me but it wasnt my fault. i do know that we do love each other, that wasnt the problem, i think the problem was that he couldnt fully commit, he could only for a short period of time and thus the break up and get back together. so if anyone has experienced a relationship like this, can you tell me when it is really over? i am confused because every time we do this and i think its over and begin to move on and have emotionally healed, here he comes again. thanks for any advice. Link to comment
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