So I'm not very good with wording...

[shl025]

especially when it comes to expressing my feelings. I posted "overwhelmed, and scared in LDR with a guy who called me his "soulmate"" last week and have gotten mostly negative replies. I really appreciated all of them, but decided to give it a shot and keep it open-minded. He and I talk online everyday, he wants me to call him every morning to wake him up, and we skype time to time. We have talked about when to see each other (most likely in 3 months, after this quarter), and we express that we miss each other a lot.

 

He says he's not inclined to drink anymore with his old "going-out" buddies and focus on school; I support and appreciate his telling me that. To let you guys know better about how intimate we are, he has told me a big secret that only a few people in his life know about -- it is kind of a big deal, and I thank him for opening up to me since it makes me feel special. But I still do worry; I think it's mostly because he had mentioned that he has cheated before, he's going to a big university with lots of events and girls, and he's a social butterfly. Also I don't know if he lets people around him know that he's in a relationship. He is going to a church BBQ tonight, and told me he will let me know how it goes, and here I am worried that he will lay his eyes on other girls. Should I just keep this feeling of insecurity to myself or let him know that I don't feel satisfied? If I should talk to him about it, how should I mention it and word it? What would you guys do?

 

Just a short intro for those who haven't read my previous post: We met a month and a half ago where he was on vacation with friends (I was going to school there) and spent amazing 10 days together. 2 weeks later, I visited him up in his city and spent another great week together. Our personalities match like two puzzle pieces and we feel very natural with each other, but we are now 7 hours drive away, and both starting classes soon.

 

Again, thank you for reading! Best wishes to all of you!

[Batya33]

Until you meet in person and have dated steadily for at least 3 months or so you won't know whether the typing/talking/skyping translates into in-person chemistry but if you continue to type/talk as much as you are before meeting you likely will have unrealistic expectations about whether you two have potential for romance. Have you checked out whether the information he's given you is true (other than the secret I guess!). From your description he sounds wayyyy too attached.

[camus154]

I don't think discussing this with him will really make you feel any better.

 

The problem is that you're uncomfortable with this LDR and with your bf's past anyway. Nothing he says is really going to make that better. It's something you're either going to have to resolve on your own, or decide you can't and move on.

[shl025]

Oh! Yes we have met before. We met a month and a half ago where he was on vacation with friends (I was going to school there) and spent amazing 10 days together. 2 weeks later, I visited him up in his city and spent another great week together. Our personalities match like two puzzle pieces and we feel very natural with each other, but we are now 7 hours drive away, and both starting classes soon.