I just want to be prepared..need advice

[GGGLV]

My ex broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. We had sex one week ago. It was both great and sad. In the meantime she has been hanging out with this guy who she had been friends with for a awhile. She expressed interest in him. I woke up this morning and relapsed that I actually met this guy once and hung out with him. The realization stings bad. Now there is nothing I can do about that I know. It just hurts. The advice I need tomorrow is my bday. If she doesn't make an attempt to tell me happy bday I know that its definitely done and out will just tell me to move on for sure. However, what if she does tell me? What do I day? Hearing from her will make me want to talk to her. I'm so confused I don't know what to think andor feel. Any advice? Thank you for taking time out to help..

[camus154]

Go no contact. Try to enjoy your bday without thinking about her as much as possible. Don't expect her to call or text. Go forward thinking that it's over regardless of whether she reaches out to you.

 

Sorry man. Hopefully you have some good friends who will take you out for a good time.

[Imthatguy]

Don't have sex with her again either unless in a committed relationship, it's just bad news bears in your situation.

[sidehop]

I wouldn't expect much from her; go with no expectation, try to enjoy your birthday without her in the picture. If she does call for any reason keep it short and dry because if she's interested in you still then she'll try to pull. Don't keep pushing (and expecting) as she will only pull away further.

[GGGLV]

Thanks guys. So if she does contact me, just ignore her? I will try and have a good time. It just really sucks that I know this guy. At the stage I am right now, a part of me wants her to contact me, a part of me doesn't. I know NC is the best way. Its just devastating. So if she does contact me it would most likely be email. Whats your advice on what I should do?

[krock]

Why did you guys break up? How long were you together?

[GGGLV]

She dumped me about 3 weeks ago. I lost my job and it took me 3 weeks to get another. She said I was too unstable. We had a very passionate relationship. Along with that we argued a lot. She can be very stubborn, as will as insecure. She requested a friend of mine on FB, just so I could find out she was hanging out with this guy. When I confronted her and told her that its not cool to parade her stuff on FB and request my friends We were together about 1 1/2 years. She is no longer friends with my friend, but enough time for me to find out. She told me she isn't ready to move on just yet, but she was enjoying his company.