Why is dumper trying to make me jealous???

[fashionista2]

ok so if you've been following my posts you know that my ex and I were in a relationship for 6 years, he dumped me 2.5 months ago possible case of GIGS, and NIC ever since.

 

Anyway, I am still friends with him on my business account facebook.

 

I know I shouldn't be looking but I did! now he was NEVER one to go on facebook much... always thought it was gossip-y and a waste of time. Well lo and behold now hes on facebook all the time, new pictures, quotes from songs, status updates (ALL related to drinking and partying)...

ALSO, as ive mentioned in other posts, he has been contacting my brother since the break up inviting him to parties and whatnot.

 

It seems he may be trying to make me jealous... why would a DUMPER try to make me jealous??? It doesnt even make sense.

 

Thanks!

[Airbag]

I really don't know. My ex-girlfriend is going on dates and stuff after only 1.5 months after she broke up with me. Maybe they really miss us and trying to stay strong by partying, going out, dating. They are trying to fill the void they created by breaking up with us. Eventually it will kick them in the ass though. Stay strong, and remember: you are not alone! I wish you all the best!

 

- A.

[camus154]

Another Facebook thread.

 

When will people realize it's evil? Now that you've opened that Pandora's Box, how do you feel?

[fashionista2]

thanks airbag! you too!

 

yupppp... i do realize facebook is evil... but as of now I have removed his posts from my newsfeed so it probably wont happen again... still wondering why though...

[camus154]

How about blocking him altogether?

 

I know you're still wondering...but you also know you shouldn't be. You opened that box, remember...

[CMS]

You don't have to block them if you have the will power to not look at their page, I never looked once since my breakup more than 5 months ago. But if you do lack of the said will power (and sounds like you do), go ahead and block them, they know where to find you if they need to talk to you

[Thorshammer]

Maybe hes just partying? My ex broke up with me, but i go on facebook (she isnt my friend) and post how I am partying. He might be just having fun and wants to be more social so he goes on fb. Many times i have had friends ask me to go out because they realize I am single by my status updates.

[fashionista2]

I am not going to block him because I dont want to rock the boat at this point. I have the will power not to look at it--- the only reason I did before was because the posts would pop up on my newsfeeed.

 

Thorshammer--- thats one way to look at it, but for this situation I really dont think thats it... i feel like hes going out of his way to post on fb and that coupled with contacting my brother so often it had me led to believe he may be trying to make me jealous? i mean thats like all i can think of as to why a person would be contacting the brother (who they dont even like) of the person they dumped.

[camus154]

I think you're missing the bigger point.

 

Wondering about ANY of this is missing the point. Perfectly human, but still nonsense.

 

This, again, is why FB is evil. It makes too much information available, and now here you are concerning yourself over things that truly don't matter. Does it help you move forward? Does it help you get past the break up?

 

Unless you come out and ask him these things, it will all be speculation and you'll never get any real answers. All you'll wind up with is a whole lot of mental and emotional energy expended on someone who is no longer in your life.

[DN]

People always think that whatever an ex posts on Facebook is directed at them.

[Thorshammer]

I am not going to block him because I dont want to rock the boat at this point. I have the will power not to look at it--- the only reason I did before was because the posts would pop up on my newsfeeed.

 

Thorshammer--- thats one way to look at it, but for this situation I really dont think thats it... i feel like hes going out of his way to post on fb and that coupled with contacting my brother so often it had me led to believe he may be trying to make me jealous? i mean thats like all i can think of as to why a person would be contacting the brother (who they dont even like) of the person they dumped.

 

Then maybe it is if hes contacting your bro. I would use this as fuel to really jumpstart the process of forgeting him. There is no need to be vicious so he feed his ego, you are a human being with feelings, he forgot that when he tries to be Mr. Cool Guy I need a little ego-drink inbetween parties. He wants that little ego-boost so he can have his head even higher. Just dont resort to the same game, show you are more mature and dignified. Trust me, his actions will get clearer and clearer and clearer in time, and each and every mistake he does will further make your stomach turn with disgust.

[fashionista2]

Then maybe it is if hes contacting your bro. I would use this as fuel to really jumpstart the process of forgeting him. There is no need to be vicious so he feed his ego, you are a human being with feelings, he forgot that when he tries to be Mr. Cool Guy I need a little ego-drink inbetween parties. He wants that little ego-boost so he can have his head even higher. Just dont resort to the same game, show you are more mature and dignified. Trust me, his actions will get clearer and clearer and clearer in time, and each and every mistake he does will further make your stomach turn with disgust.

 

yes! this makes sense.. thanks!

 

and @DN its not that I thought it was about me, or directed at me necessarily... its just the only reasoning i can come up with for the sudden interest in facebook and my brother (both which he could've taken or left before)... thats why I started this thread, to see if the jealous reasoning made sense to anybody else.